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villainess · 07-08-2003, 11:48 AM

My partner's parents seem to like me, though I cannot for the life of me figure out why, since we've got jack all in common and last time I visited them I was too sick to talk. They're not such bad folks either except that they stress my partner out to the point that he drinks excessively. There's a kind of Catholic mother thing going on.

My parents, on the other hand, are great except when they're getting under my skin again exactly the way they did when I was thirteen. Actually, that's more my siblings than my parents, but since five of those are still living at home....

A few hundred miles between each member makes for a happy family, in my book.

the.villainess

Gawdawful · 07-08-2003, 12:04 PM

Two weeks with people you like is a long time to be together, I don't know that I could do it. If you want them to leave, tell them this supposed Will Rogers quote that my mother told to my wife and I on what was supposed to be a five day visit (our once-a-year visit): "Guests and fish both begin to stink after three days." This, even though we were contributing members of the household, my wife was doing some of the cooking, we helped in doing dishes, and I mowed and trimmed their lawn. We were packed up and out of there within an hour, we're not stupid, we got it right away. The next year, we stayed in a motel and only visited for one day... never again will I submit my wife to that kind of cruel remark from my family.

My In-laws would love it if we came to stay for two weeks, but I would hate it. I have nothing in common with them at all. They are fundamentalist bible-thumping hillbillies to me. They're kind, but can't leave their "faith" out of a conversation. Once, when my wife was in the hospital for three weeks, my MIL came and watched the kids for most of that time. Jeebus Cripes, I about went nuts, thankfully I could go hang out at the hospital most of the day; between that and working, I got through that trying period in my life.

Warren is OK, really.

Gawdawful · 07-08-2003, 12:10 PM

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Originally posted by villainess
A few hundred miles between each member makes for a happy family, in my book.

I heartily agree with that. My family is spread out quite a bit. We used to live in Salt Lake City, my two brothers live in NYC, one sister in Oklahoma near my parents, and the other in Oregon. A job transfer brought us back to Oklahoma a few years ago, we are now about 110 miles away from my parents and sister's family. That's as close as I want to get most of the time. My wife's brothers, all three live in the same Texas hometown as her parents and do things together quite a bit. That would absolutely drive me crazy. My family gets along great for the brief visits that we have, any longer we'd probably be at each other's throats, mentally at least.

Warren is OK, really.

ImGod · 07-08-2003, 12:19 PM

I get along better with my in-laws than my parents most of the time. My family is not that bad, but tact has never been a strong suit. The in-laws cut me more slack, don't pry where I don't want them to, ask me how my life is going, pretend they are interested in my work, and don't ask me if I'm gaining weight.

Of course, the competition my sister-in-law has been bringing by lately makes me look all the better.

cheetah · 07-08-2003, 02:02 PM

I get along well with my in-laws. They are fundy, but we don't discuss it. However, after nearly 7 years together, my partner and I actually spent the night in the same room when we stayed the night at their house a few weeks ago!

I couldn't believe they let us get away with it! But I always did wonder if they were going to continue making us sleep apart until we were 50 just because we aren't officially married.

villainess · 07-08-2003, 02:10 PM

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Originally posted by cheetah
However, after nearly 7 years together, my partner and I actually spent the night in the same room when we stayed the night at their house a few weeks ago! I couldn't believe they let us get away with it! But I always did wonder if they were going to continue making us sleep apart until we were 50 just because we aren't officially married.

That's the weirdest thing about my crypto-in-laws....

they pitched a huge fit about letting me and my partner share a bed in a hotel room that they were half paying for, even though we would have been paying for the other half. I was so damn offended that we ended up staying with my cousin instead.

But when we go to visit them, at their house, on their turf, where I would feel obligated to follow their rules, they just stick us in the same bedroom, no big deal.

People. I can't fathom them.

the.villainess

ImGod · 07-08-2003, 02:37 PM

Before we got married my parents and in-laws made us stay in separate rooms. That was okay with me.

My wife (then girlfriend) was afraid to make noise so we just had sex in the car.

Now that we stay together, nothing. Damn maybe seperate rooms isn't so bad.

echidna · 07-09-2003, 05:24 PM

The Jelly-bean Law of Marriage

For every time one has relations in the unwedded state, place one jelly-bean in a jar under the bed. After marriage, for every time one has relations, remove one jelly-bean from the jar.

The jar will never empty.

girlwriter · 07-09-2003, 06:10 PM

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The jar will never empty.

I beg to differ.

Gawdawful · 07-09-2003, 08:23 PM

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Originally posted by girlwriter
I beg to differ.

Me too. There weren't any jellybeans in the jar to start with.

Warren in OK

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07-08-2003, 11:48 AM	#11
villainess Regular Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: Ithaca, NY Posts: 471	My partner's parents seem to like me, though I cannot for the life of me figure out why, since we've got jack all in common and last time I visited them I was too sick to talk. They're not such bad folks either except that they stress my partner out to the point that he drinks excessively. There's a kind of Catholic mother thing going on. My parents, on the other hand, are great except when they're getting under my skin again exactly the way they did when I was thirteen. Actually, that's more my siblings than my parents, but since five of those are still living at home.... A few hundred miles between each member makes for a happy family, in my book. the.villainess

07-08-2003, 12:04 PM	#12
Gawdawful Veteran Member Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: In a cardboard box under the viaduct. Posts: 2,107	Two weeks with people you like is a long time to be together, I don't know that I could do it. If you want them to leave, tell them this supposed Will Rogers quote that my mother told to my wife and I on what was supposed to be a five day visit (our once-a-year visit): "Guests and fish both begin to stink after three days." This, even though we were contributing members of the household, my wife was doing some of the cooking, we helped in doing dishes, and I mowed and trimmed their lawn. We were packed up and out of there within an hour, we're not stupid, we got it right away. The next year, we stayed in a motel and only visited for one day... never again will I submit my wife to that kind of cruel remark from my family. My In-laws would love it if we came to stay for two weeks, but I would hate it. I have nothing in common with them at all. They are fundamentalist bible-thumping hillbillies to me. They're kind, but can't leave their "faith" out of a conversation. Once, when my wife was in the hospital for three weeks, my MIL came and watched the kids for most of that time. Jeebus Cripes, I about went nuts, thankfully I could go hang out at the hospital most of the day; between that and working, I got through that trying period in my life. Warren is OK, really.

07-08-2003, 12:19 PM	#14
ImGod Veteran Member Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: Nebraska Posts: 6,264	I get along better with my in-laws than my parents most of the time. My family is not that bad, but tact has never been a strong suit. The in-laws cut me more slack, don't pry where I don't want them to, ask me how my life is going, pretend they are interested in my work, and don't ask me if I'm gaining weight. Of course, the competition my sister-in-law has been bringing by lately makes me look all the better.

07-08-2003, 02:02 PM	#15
cheetah Veteran Member Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: San Diego, CA Posts: 2,118	I get along well with my in-laws. They are fundy, but we don't discuss it. However, after nearly 7 years together, my partner and I actually spent the night in the same room when we stayed the night at their house a few weeks ago! I couldn't believe they let us get away with it! But I always did wonder if they were going to continue making us sleep apart until we were 50 just because we aren't officially married.

07-08-2003, 02:37 PM	#17
ImGod Veteran Member Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: Nebraska Posts: 6,264	Before we got married my parents and in-laws made us stay in separate rooms. That was okay with me. My wife (then girlfriend) was afraid to make noise so we just had sex in the car. Now that we stay together, nothing. Damn maybe seperate rooms isn't so bad.

07-09-2003, 05:24 PM	#18
echidna Veteran Member Join Date: May 2001 Location: Melbourne, Australia Posts: 2,832	The Jelly-bean Law of Marriage For every time one has relations in the unwedded state, place one jelly-bean in a jar under the bed. After marriage, for every time one has relations, remove one jelly-bean from the jar. The jar will never empty.

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