Slumtrimpet

Interesting thread.

I was married to a non-practicing catholic for 24 years (divorced [are they allowed to do that?] 4 months ago) Religion was never an issue between us and was only raised by his parents when our kids were born. Since I'm pretty laid back, I let them do the Catholic CCD thing and they even had their first communion and all. As soon as they were old enough to think...they did, and are now atheist/agnostic.

Anyway....I'm just starting to explore the dating scene again after what...a 26 year hiatus? Religion isn't something that gets discussed around this part of the country very much, but I won't be looking for potential partners at any church groups. The pickings are pretty slim in a small New England town anyway...or maybe I'm just too picky.

I did date a believer (a Mormon - Ack!) prior to meeting my ex-husband. At the time I was under the impression that he was non-practicing, but even then, belief/non-belief was starting to be a problem. I doubt I could sustain a relationship with a believer. An unfortunate tendency to snort when someone says "I know God loves you/me" is apparently offensive. (and requires a handy tissue supply too)

oh, and good luck, Xeluan. I hope your next date is as successful as the first (or better)

Asha'man

Hey Strawberry, I�m interested, but I think the commute would kill us�

I�m a mid-30s male computer geek with a strong interest in science, fantasy, and all things outdoorsy. Other than here, I spend my time hiking, scuba diving, stargazing, cycling, and occasional rock climbing. I�m also a really nice guy.

I�ve done a bit of dating over the years, but haven�t had a serious relationship in a painfully long time. I just can�t seem to find a woman who is interested in me at the same time I am interested in her.

I don�t insist on dating an atheist, but anyone with strong religious beliefs is going to rapidly disqualify herself. I do insist on an intelligent, rational thinker, and it is extremely hard to be that and a fundamentalist at the same time.

David M. Payne

Well, as this seems to be the lonely hearts thread on the Sec-Web, let me throw my name out for consideration. I'm 54, not bad looking, good sense of humor, pretty intelligent, have the stable adequately paying job, a house in the country. (i.e. high desert but nice neighborhood.) I write a little, here is an example, my last piece, The Story of Bob. You can do a search on me here to see more of my written stuff if that interests you. I am looking for a woman who lives in the area, or would consider relocating here if we hit it off. (My job isn't very mobile.)
As you can see I live in the land of holy rollers, and it's tough sledding trying to find a woman of atheist/agnostic persuasion around here. If any of you ladies reading this are interested, or you know someone who might be, drop me a PM. I don't care much about age, race or ethnic origins, but you need to be a freethinker, and young at heart, because I sure am. My last wife was pretty religious, and thought I was crazy for what I was writing, and she hasn't even read some of my latest stuff!

David

Walross

Y'know it's funny, but I don't mind being single nearly as much as I used to. I've spent the last few years being mostly alone, with the occasional 2 or 3 month relationship, but I find myself feeling very content with my life exactly as it is. This worries me since I suspect it's one of the first signs that I'm getting old (32 this month woohoo!)

Walross

MollyMac

All my serious relationships have been with atheists including 14 years spent with the father of my children. We separated 6 years ago when I was 40. Soon after we split I tried dating a couple of theists:

The first was an Irish Catholic. At first his faith amused me, then it exasperated me e.g. he was very distressed one day when he said an acquaintance of his had committed suicide - not so much because of the terrible tragedy of a young man driven to take his own life but because "he's in hell now isn't he?" Finally he disgusted me when he told with some pride about a serious of financial scams he'd pulled - he didn't see me for dust!

The second was a muslim. If you're wondering what on earth I was thinking of, well he was gorgeous looking, half my age, besotted with me and I hadn't had my er.. ego massaged in a long while...On the first date we met in a wine bar - I drank alcohol, he didn't and I took the opportunity to question him about the extent of his faith. He described himself as a "non-practising muslim", he said he occasionally drank alcohol and generally seemed prettly liberal and we got on fine. Later the same evening he suddenly asked me if I thought AIDS was a punishment for homosexuality.
When I'd recovered I asked him to repeat the question. And he started on in all earnestness about homosexuality being a sin against god etc. etc. I'm sure you can guess the end of it.

At the beginning of the year my lovely, atheist bofriend of four and a half years dumped me because I couldn't spend enough time with him and have said that I never want to live with him (or anyone else) because I like my own space too much.

So if there are any good looking, single atheist men withing easy reach of North London looking for 'no strings' type of relationship...


This was posted when I was drunk - I've now edited the shameful language out.

Manta

Atlanta, eh? scuba diving? ever make it to Charleston, lemme know...or at least the Cooper river ...at least you'd have a non believing dive buddy

-kim

Bree

Don't you wish there was an Infidelic sort of dating service - even if it were Internet-based? Maybe someone should start one.

Novowels

What, you mean like Secular Singles or something? (well, I guess that's more 'personal ads' than dating service, but it's about the best you're gonna find on the 'net)

cricket

YIKES; I just took a look at that singles link.

Some slim pickins, in my state. *shudder*

viscousmemories

Yeah, not many in my area either. I've found more seemingly compatible atheists in personals.yahoo.com and personals.onion.com, though I haven't responded to any.