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seems to me that you think that people who care about sexual aspect of relationship don't have the same level of commitment as those who think it is not so important. Why do you think so? How do you quantify level of unhappiness that one partner needs to expirence before giving up to call it commited relationship? You also seem to be ignoring what has been pointed out several times, i.e. that there can be physical problems which can't be resolved. I would also like to know is there any reason other than religion why not to have sex before marriage? IMO you can only gain by verifying compatibility in that aspect. What can you possibly lose by having sex before marriage so that it shouldn't be done? I hope you have better reason than possibly (if you are lucky) more exciting honeymoon. |
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You think we here are obsessed with sex? I disagree- I think churches cause people to become obsessed with sex. How? They discourage everything but missionary-style sex that produces offspring, yet the desires of the congregation are still there. When they don't have an outlet for those desires, I wonder what that does to ther psyche. scigirl |
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There is a condition ( I don't know the name of it) where a woman is born with a vagina that is very small and incompatible with intercourse. It can be surgically corrected. I have a friend who suffered from this. She was a virgin when she married (at age 30) but had fulfilling sexual gratification through oral and manual stimulation with her fiance for the entire course of their relationship. However, once the wedding night came and went and sex was excrutiatingly painful it began to put a serious strain on their marriage. She eventually went to her a doctor who was able to properly diagnose this problem and surgically repair it. She and her husband have been MUCH happier. I wonder if that could have been the case with one of the girls mentioned previously in this thread.
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Marriage isn't a barrier to disease. Unless both people are virgins and have no sexual experience at all, waiting until marriage doesn't guarantee that both will be disease-free. And as far as pregnancy is concerned...that's what contraceptives are for. So, I don't buy the disease and pregnancy thing as reasons to not have sex before marriage. |
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There's certainly less guilt involved when atheists wait. The only thing holding them back is (ironically) their own free will; their personal evaluation of risks and rewards. Not some vague threat of eternal damnation.
And once again, I'll say that the biggest problem when it comes to discussing this issue is that the people who advocate abstinence until marriage are the people who have no earthly idea what sex is really like, because they're abstaining until marriage. |
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