Freethought & Rationalism Archive

admice · 01-09-2003, 07:19 PM

Firstly if there's anyone out there male, single and over 40 in the Portland area...

I was married to a moderate theist wich didn't have anything to do with our marriage's demise, but I had a little trouble with the fact that I was more ethical than he. So now I consider that in men I date. Ethics is important to me. Am dating an atheist now and we get along great and it's geat to have someone to talk to with similar ideas (tho I'm also involved with the local Humanist group and great to have them to talk to too), tho the sparks aren't really flying (sigh). HAve dated a Buddhist and a Muslim, and felt the difference mostly because my beliefs (or lack) and values are so important to me.

Several of the Humanists (all atheists) are married to theists, tho, and have strong long-term relationships. Tho eveidently they do have to work at it. They just talk to other Humanists about atheism, etc and share other things with their spouses.

Bout all I know about it.

fando · 01-09-2003, 08:10 PM

I've dated both infidels and theists here in sunny southern CA. None of them ever worked out. I guess the only thing I'd like to say is: Don't get too desperate when looking for an atheist because you just might get hurt. Then again, it's possible that two atheists who met in bible country might work out when they wouldn't have had they lived in a more secular area. But I wouldn't know. :-/

cricket · 01-09-2003, 09:28 PM

Quote:

Don't get too desperate when looking for an atheist because you just might get hurt.

Don't get desperate at all.

Not many atheists in St Louis. I haven't been on a date with an atheist since I moved here. But life is good; I am lucky to feel content in a fairly solitary lifestyle. I am never bored and rarely ever lonely.

Retsyn · 01-09-2003, 10:24 PM

One of my friends lives in St. Louis, is a nonbeliever, and he and his girlfriend broke up over New Year's.

Retsyn · 01-09-2003, 10:44 PM

As long I'm pimping him, I might as well mention I'm also single, just graduated with a master's degree in MIS, and I'm receiving professional help to minimize and cope with ADD. So I'll be feeling much better soon.

Krieger · 01-09-2003, 10:51 PM

I've always been single and I want to remain that way.

Novowels · 01-09-2003, 11:26 PM

Strangely enough, I've dated an atheist back when I was a Catholic (and I have no idea where she is now unfortunately, we'd get along great these days) and I've dated a liberal Christian as an atheist. Those are the only two serious experiences I've had with women (if you don't count the older coworker that won a bet for sleeping with me when I was 17, which I don't).

I've noticed that both belief and nonbelief have been central focuses in my life, so I don't think I'd last long with someone who believes radically different things than I. Living in the Midwest means I don't get many choices on the "non-belief" side of the fence, too. More's the loss for me, I guess. Ah well, I don't need other people, right? Right?

Me so lonely...

Bane · 01-10-2003, 12:39 AM

Quote:

I've always been single and I want to remain that way.

Yep, I figure I've made it this far by myself I might as well go the rest of the way.

Xeluan · 01-10-2003, 02:08 AM

I'd rather be single and miserable than miserable in a bad relationship. It is nice to be in a good relationship and happy though.

I've never dated an "real" athiest then again, apart from my first ever girlfriend years ago, I've never dated a christian. I put this down to living in Japan and dating Japanese in my early twenties and tending towards pagan women in my early thirties (don't ask me why. I just seem to find 'em).

I've noticed that back in Australia, the Australian women I have encountered tend towards a mild deism if anything. I could never date anyone with strong christian beliefs.

Btw, I did start a thread late last year asking for some guidance on whether I should go for a pagan lass I was interested in as opposed to a nice left wing athiest. Update is that the left wing athiest and I have a nice friendship going (Yes, man and woman can be just friends). Pagan lass and I have developed something that I have no idea what to call. I'd say it is a friendship with great potential to go further. The vexing question is if and when.

Xeluan

Edited to the obligatory call for 30 something lady athiests in the Sydney area that Pms are welcome.;-) Hey, everyone else is doing it.

alek0 · 01-10-2003, 02:39 AM

Quote:

I've always been single and I want to remain that way.

Well, me too, but wouldn't mind more regular sex than what I get now

Most of my recent relationships since I left Europe were with christians, and it was always a problem. No matter how hard I tried to avoid arguments, as soon as the relationship would become more commited, they would keep trying to convert me.

Any single atheist guys in the age range 30-50 willing to visit Hong Kong?

01-09-2003, 11:26 PM	#17
Novowels Veteran Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: Sydney Posts: 1,658	Novowels = Single Strangely enough, I've dated an atheist back when I was a Catholic (and I have no idea where she is now unfortunately, we'd get along great these days) and I've dated a liberal Christian as an atheist. Those are the only two serious experiences I've had with women (if you don't count the older coworker that won a bet for sleeping with me when I was 17, which I don't). I've noticed that both belief and nonbelief have been central focuses in my life, so I don't think I'd last long with someone who believes radically different things than I. Living in the Midwest means I don't get many choices on the "non-belief" side of the fence, too. More's the loss for me, I guess. Ah well, I don't need other people, right? Right? Me so lonely...

Thread Tools	Search this Thread
Show Printable Version	Search this Thread: Advanced Search

01-09-2003, 07:19 PM	#11
admice Regular Member Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: S Cal Posts: 327	Firstly if there's anyone out there male, single and over 40 in the Portland area... I was married to a moderate theist wich didn't have anything to do with our marriage's demise, but I had a little trouble with the fact that I was more ethical than he. So now I consider that in men I date. Ethics is important to me. Am dating an atheist now and we get along great and it's geat to have someone to talk to with similar ideas (tho I'm also involved with the local Humanist group and great to have them to talk to too), tho the sparks aren't really flying (sigh). HAve dated a Buddhist and a Muslim, and felt the difference mostly because my beliefs (or lack) and values are so important to me. Several of the Humanists (all atheists) are married to theists, tho, and have strong long-term relationships. Tho eveidently they do have to work at it. They just talk to other Humanists about atheism, etc and share other things with their spouses. Bout all I know about it.

01-09-2003, 08:10 PM	#12
fando Veteran Member Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: Los Angeles Area Posts: 1,372	I've dated both infidels and theists here in sunny southern CA. None of them ever worked out. I guess the only thing I'd like to say is: Don't get too desperate when looking for an atheist because you just might get hurt. Then again, it's possible that two atheists who met in bible country might work out when they wouldn't have had they lived in a more secular area. But I wouldn't know. :-/

01-09-2003, 10:24 PM	#14
Retsyn Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: Memphis, TN Posts: 23	One of my friends lives in St. Louis, is a nonbeliever, and he and his girlfriend broke up over New Year's.

01-09-2003, 10:44 PM	#15
Retsyn Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: Memphis, TN Posts: 23	As long I'm pimping him, I might as well mention I'm also single, just graduated with a master's degree in MIS, and I'm receiving professional help to minimize and cope with ADD. So I'll be feeling much better soon.

01-09-2003, 10:51 PM	#16
Krieger Veteran Member Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: ... Posts: 2,191	I've always been single and I want to remain that way.

01-10-2003, 02:08 AM	#19
Xeluan Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Some Pub In East Gosford, Australia Posts: 831	I'd rather be single and miserable than miserable in a bad relationship. It is nice to be in a good relationship and happy though. I've never dated an "real" athiest then again, apart from my first ever girlfriend years ago, I've never dated a christian. I put this down to living in Japan and dating Japanese in my early twenties and tending towards pagan women in my early thirties (don't ask me why. I just seem to find 'em). I've noticed that back in Australia, the Australian women I have encountered tend towards a mild deism if anything. I could never date anyone with strong christian beliefs. Btw, I did start a thread late last year asking for some guidance on whether I should go for a pagan lass I was interested in as opposed to a nice left wing athiest. Update is that the left wing athiest and I have a nice friendship going (Yes, man and woman can be just friends). Pagan lass and I have developed something that I have no idea what to call. I'd say it is a friendship with great potential to go further. The vexing question is if and when. Xeluan Edited to the obligatory call for 30 something lady athiests in the Sydney area that Pms are welcome.;-) Hey, everyone else is doing it.

Freethought & Rationalism Archive

The archives are read only.