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prollyrong · 07-02-2003, 06:16 AM

I recently turned 30 and my wife threw a party for me. She invited my friends from all over the country.... and they came! It was the greatest party ever with much good beer, good food, good people, and lousy karaoke.

And I would like to do something special for her in a couple months for her 30th.

But I can't think of anything that comes close.

I thought about throwing *her* a party, but, that's been done.

Any suggestions? I am pretty damned selfish so it's hard to come up with something that someone else would appreciate. I need help.

Godless Dave · 07-02-2003, 06:59 AM

Romantic evening with just the two of you? Then you wouldn't have to worry about making sure the party you throw for her is as good or better than the one she threw for you.

When I say romantic evening, I mean go whole hog. Reserve a really nice hotel room. Hire a limo to take you both to dinner, and then to some event she would like (play, dancing, whatever girly thing turns her on). Treat her like a queen.

Just one suggestion. If she is very social she might prefer a party to a date with just the two of you. Some of the women on this forum will probably have better suggestions.

Shake · 07-02-2003, 06:59 AM

Breakfast in bed, flowers, maybe treat her to a day at a local spa where she can be pampered (if she's into that sort of thing... not all women are), nice dinner, etc. I dunno, just the first things that hit my mind.

Quote:

You say:
I thought about throwing *her* a party, but, that's been done.

So what's wrong with that? So it's been done! It's still kinda cool. (I would imagine - I never get bona fide birthday parties - birthdate in my profile IS accurate, not some glitch)

ImGod · 07-02-2003, 07:08 AM

Does your wife like parties? That's important. My wife likes parties a lot more than I do. It would be hard to surprise her since she may be looking for something. If you go the party route, do it a week before her birthday to throw her off. NOT a week after.

Otherwise, I would plan a 3 day weekend get-away. Make sure you take care of everything, transportation, hotel, dinners, entertainment, etc. Your attention to detail will make it more special. It doesn't have to be an expensive trip, as long as, she feels you put thought into it. Dallas may work for you.

girlwriter · 07-02-2003, 02:14 PM

I'll vote for the three day weekend thing. What you do depends on how much money you can spend and what she likes, of course. The key is ti think about what she will like, not necessarily so much what you like.

You can combine stuff to give her a little of everything. Time alone, time with you, time with friends/a crowd. First decide whether she'll like a city kind of thing or an ourdoorsey/quiet country get-away.

Get online and start googling. Try "bed and breakfast" for cities/towns you're considering, as well as resorts. I think the B&Bs and small, historic hotels are much nicer than the big resorts and expensive hotels. More romantic. Take care of her all weekend (and make sure you're rested for it!)

Some things to consider including:
-Breakfast in bed/at a nice restaraunt/at the b&b.
-a little shopping(not the mall - something a little special), art museums/galleries
-hiking/tennis/swimming/laying out by a pool/golf/mini-golf/rent a canoe and row her around a lake/river.
l-unch wherever you have been (a picnic/the tennis or golf club/the museum cafe, a little cafe, etc.)
-spa treatments: massage, parafin wrap, herbal wrap, etc.
-salon treatments: facial, hair/makup done, manicure, pedicure
-Afternoon tea (a good time to invite some friends to join you if you like. It's usually about $8-12 a person, so not too much to ask of your friends. Check the fine hotels for this. A nice way to hang out in a very expensive hotel without paying for a room.
dinner at a really nice restaraunt - dress up, get appetizers, wine, the whole nine yards. But *save* dessert for later.

-Symphony, play, ballet or modern dance concert, other music concert, movie (her favorite kind)
-Go to your hotel room, take a bubble bath together, or *ahem,* whatever.
-Order room service dessert and coffee/tea
-repeat with variations for as many days as you can
-Clean house and flowers waiting for her when you come home, so the magic can linger.

Make sure you have everything planned, including giving her some options if she wants. Make sure she has all the right clothes packed, you have all the reservations, parking etc. worked out. If you can't spend that much money, you can still do this kind of stuff at home. Make her a nice breakfast in bed, and a nice dinner or get take out. Clean the house for her beforehand so it's more pleasant. Take her on hikes, picnics, to art museums, cheap and free stuff. Have a massage therapist come to your home to give her a massage.

The main thing is to have the details all planned out so that the whole thing goes smoothly, don't overplan so you both are exhausted from running around, and make sure she's pampered.

Other ideas:
Is there a trip the two of you have been wanting to go on?
A project she wants (you) to get done? Can you build her a potting shed, or an herb garden or redecorate a room, or something?
Is there a large item she *really* wants? Expensive camping gear, a nice sewing machine, pottery wheel, etc.?
Does she have a hobby that she needs something for? For example, can you clean out/build/otherwise create a room for her to write, paint, sew, whatever in? A place she can really make her own?

I could go on, but you get the idea. Good luck, and let us know how it goes.

Godless Dave · 07-02-2003, 06:04 PM

I went to a B&B once and my then-partner and I enjoyed it very much. I like everything girlwriter said except:

Quote:

-a little shopping

I think it's admirable Prollywrong wants to put a lot of thought and effort into making this a special birthday for his wife, but I don't think he has to torture himself. Maybe make shopping one of the "time alone" activities. She can drop you off at a bar or something and pick you up two or three hours later.

girlwriter · 07-02-2003, 09:26 PM

sounds good to me. I personally would not need the shopping, I was just trying to brianstorm. And I was thinking along the lines of strolling along in a historic district, eating ice cream and looking at fun little shops. But GD is right, this should be fun for both of you.

trekbette · 07-02-2003, 09:38 PM

I'm turning 30 soon and I really want a party. It's a huge milestone (at least until you hit 40) and celebrating with large amounts of people (and lots of presents) is always a winner.

I am all for theme parties:

Logan's Run is the best theme for a 30th.

Or take something she loves and go all out with it. I have a friend who loves fairies. For her 30th, we got yards and yards of different colored butcher paper and turned the living room into a fairy glen with giant mushrooms.

Involving her close friends in the planning is great also.

Godless Dave · 07-03-2003, 05:27 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by girlwriter
And I was thinking along the lines of strolling along in a historic district, eating ice cream and looking at fun little shops.

My personal definition of hell. But, tastes vary. Prollywrong knows his wife and himself better than we do (not that that's ever stopped me from giving advice before).

ImGod · 07-03-2003, 07:44 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by girlwriter
... The key is ti think about what she will like, not necessarily so much what you like.
...

If you are really stumped, just put on your best clothes, meet her at the door one night, make her sit in a comfortable chair with her feet up and a cold drink, put on some music, and ....

clean the house for her.

07-02-2003, 06:16 AM	#1
prollyrong Junior Member Join Date: May 2003 Location: fundietown, ok Posts: 51	Spouse's 30th: ideas?? I recently turned 30 and my wife threw a party for me. She invited my friends from all over the country.... and they came! It was the greatest party ever with much good beer, good food, good people, and lousy karaoke. And I would like to do something special for her in a couple months for her 30th. But I can't think of anything that comes close. I thought about throwing her a party, but, that's been done. Any suggestions? I am pretty damned selfish so it's hard to come up with something that someone else would appreciate. I need help.

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07-02-2003, 06:59 AM	#2
Godless Dave Contributor Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: With 10,000 lakes who needs a coast? Posts: 10,762	Romantic evening with just the two of you? Then you wouldn't have to worry about making sure the party you throw for her is as good or better than the one she threw for you. When I say romantic evening, I mean go whole hog. Reserve a really nice hotel room. Hire a limo to take you both to dinner, and then to some event she would like (play, dancing, whatever girly thing turns her on). Treat her like a queen. Just one suggestion. If she is very social she might prefer a party to a date with just the two of you. Some of the women on this forum will probably have better suggestions.

07-02-2003, 07:08 AM	#4
ImGod Veteran Member Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: Nebraska Posts: 6,264	Does your wife like parties? That's important. My wife likes parties a lot more than I do. It would be hard to surprise her since she may be looking for something. If you go the party route, do it a week before her birthday to throw her off. NOT a week after. Otherwise, I would plan a 3 day weekend get-away. Make sure you take care of everything, transportation, hotel, dinners, entertainment, etc. Your attention to detail will make it more special. It doesn't have to be an expensive trip, as long as, she feels you put thought into it. Dallas may work for you.

07-02-2003, 02:14 PM	#5
girlwriter Regular Member Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Colorado, USA Posts: 300	I'll vote for the three day weekend thing. What you do depends on how much money you can spend and what she likes, of course. The key is ti think about what she will like, not necessarily so much what you like. You can combine stuff to give her a little of everything. Time alone, time with you, time with friends/a crowd. First decide whether she'll like a city kind of thing or an ourdoorsey/quiet country get-away. Get online and start googling. Try "bed and breakfast" for cities/towns you're considering, as well as resorts. I think the B&Bs and small, historic hotels are much nicer than the big resorts and expensive hotels. More romantic. Take care of her all weekend (and make sure you're rested for it!) Some things to consider including: -Breakfast in bed/at a nice restaraunt/at the b&b. -a little shopping(not the mall - something a little special), art museums/galleries -hiking/tennis/swimming/laying out by a pool/golf/mini-golf/rent a canoe and row her around a lake/river. l-unch wherever you have been (a picnic/the tennis or golf club/the museum cafe, a little cafe, etc.) -spa treatments: massage, parafin wrap, herbal wrap, etc. -salon treatments: facial, hair/makup done, manicure, pedicure -Afternoon tea (a good time to invite some friends to join you if you like. It's usually about $8-12 a person, so not too much to ask of your friends. Check the fine hotels for this. A nice way to hang out in a very expensive hotel without paying for a room. dinner at a really nice restaraunt - dress up, get appetizers, wine, the whole nine yards. But save dessert for later. -Symphony, play, ballet or modern dance concert, other music concert, movie (her favorite kind) -Go to your hotel room, take a bubble bath together, or ahem, whatever. -Order room service dessert and coffee/tea -repeat with variations for as many days as you can -Clean house and flowers waiting for her when you come home, so the magic can linger. Make sure you have everything planned, including giving her some options if she wants. Make sure she has all the right clothes packed, you have all the reservations, parking etc. worked out. If you can't spend that much money, you can still do this kind of stuff at home. Make her a nice breakfast in bed, and a nice dinner or get take out. Clean the house for her beforehand so it's more pleasant. Take her on hikes, picnics, to art museums, cheap and free stuff. Have a massage therapist come to your home to give her a massage. The main thing is to have the details all planned out so that the whole thing goes smoothly, don't overplan so you both are exhausted from running around, and make sure she's pampered. Other ideas: Is there a trip the two of you have been wanting to go on? A project she wants (you) to get done? Can you build her a potting shed, or an herb garden or redecorate a room, or something? Is there a large item she really wants? Expensive camping gear, a nice sewing machine, pottery wheel, etc.? Does she have a hobby that she needs something for? For example, can you clean out/build/otherwise create a room for her to write, paint, sew, whatever in? A place she can really make her own? I could go on, but you get the idea. Good luck, and let us know how it goes.

07-02-2003, 09:26 PM	#7
girlwriter Regular Member Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Colorado, USA Posts: 300	sounds good to me. I personally would not need the shopping, I was just trying to brianstorm. And I was thinking along the lines of strolling along in a historic district, eating ice cream and looking at fun little shops. But GD is right, this should be fun for both of you.

07-02-2003, 09:38 PM	#8
trekbette Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Torrance, CA Posts: 533	I'm turning 30 soon and I really want a party. It's a huge milestone (at least until you hit 40) and celebrating with large amounts of people (and lots of presents) is always a winner. I am all for theme parties: Logan's Run is the best theme for a 30th. Or take something she loves and go all out with it. I have a friend who loves fairies. For her 30th, we got yards and yards of different colored butcher paper and turned the living room into a fairy glen with giant mushrooms. Involving her close friends in the planning is great also.

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