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Pensee · 01-23-2003, 02:44 PM

So, has your sex life become better since deconverting?

I know mine certainly has. (And, yes, I do think there is a correlation there.)

HaysooChreesto! · 01-23-2003, 05:10 PM

Religion never really played a part in my sex life. But I think that not ever being threatened with hell for getting laid is definately liberating. Or maybe it's just that I've never been bummed out by it.

How bizarre it must be for the religous teenage boy. Feeling guilty for masturbating. They believe God is watching them. Heck, if God was watching me I'd surmise that he'd be afraid I would've pulled the thing off by the age of 14!

There's a much more serious side to this in regards to religous guilt, but I don't feel like going there right now.

Psycho Economist · 01-23-2003, 06:19 PM

I had huge guilt about all things sexual, but my ex-girlfriend was very... um... persuasive. (*shakes head* pastor's kid... not mine.) I finished deconverting while we were together, but never mentioned it to her. By that time we had bigger problems.

My current girlfriend has known I am an atheist since this time last year, and while we occasionally have fights over it, it doesn't get in the way of our sex-life.

Philosoft · 01-23-2003, 08:54 PM

Hmm. Sex... sex...

Is that something you do with another person? Refresh me, people.

Strawberry · 01-23-2003, 10:51 PM

My sexuality is much, much healthier. Even approaching normal now. However, the sex is the same as before, because I wasn't getting any then, and I'm still not. But I don't feel guilt or fear for having been born with a libido anymore, which is a nice change, if I do say so myself.

darwinspetmonkey · 01-24-2003, 09:35 AM

Since I decoverted in 6th or 7th grade, and lost my virginity much later it is better since. And when I start having some sexual contact with someone besides the Sock Puppet of Love again it will be even better (I hope, I can't quite remember but I recall there was sweating involved).

Godless Dave · 01-24-2003, 09:59 AM

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Originally posted by Strawberry
My sexuality is much, much healthier. Even approaching normal now. However, the sex is the same as before, because I wasn't getting any then, and I'm still not. But I don't feel guilt or fear for having been born with a libido anymore, which is a nice change, if I do say so myself.

Are you able to enjoy masturbation more now that you don't feel guilty about it? If so then I'd say your sex life has improved!

penumbra · 01-24-2003, 10:20 AM

from Philosoft
"Hmm. Sex... sex...
Is that something you do with another person? Refresh me, people."

Well, I, too, have a vague recollection of that word, somewhere in the deep recesses of my mind. If you get an answer, Philosoft, clue me in.

Non-praying Mantis · 01-24-2003, 01:03 PM

None of the above. I deconverted before I had a sex life!

NPM

Ab_Normal · 01-24-2003, 01:23 PM

My husband and I thought that getting married would help me overcome my sexual reticence. Nope. How about giving up religion? Nope, that didn't do it either. After about 10 years, we finally realized that I'm just on the far left-hand side of the sexual bell curve. To make life more interesting, he's on the far right-hand side...

Still, on the days when I don't feel like taking responsibility, I blame Catholic school sex-ed, what there was of it.

View Poll Results: Is your sex life better since deconverting?
It's better, and it's because I deconverted.	3	10.00%
It's better, but it has nothing to do with my deconversion.	7	23.33%
It's better, but my deconversion is only part of the reason.	3	10.00%
It's the same, but it will be better the next time I actually have a sex life.	7	23.33%
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Pensee Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2001 Location: florida Posts: 657	Sex question for deconverts So, has your sex life become better since deconverting? I know mine certainly has. (And, yes, I do think there is a correlation there.)

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01-23-2003, 05:10 PM	#2
HaysooChreesto! Veteran Member Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: SoCal USA Posts: 7,737	Religion never really played a part in my sex life. But I think that not ever being threatened with hell for getting laid is definately liberating. Or maybe it's just that I've never been bummed out by it. How bizarre it must be for the religous teenage boy. Feeling guilty for masturbating. They believe God is watching them. Heck, if God was watching me I'd surmise that he'd be afraid I would've pulled the thing off by the age of 14! There's a much more serious side to this in regards to religous guilt, but I don't feel like going there right now.

01-23-2003, 06:19 PM	#3
Psycho Economist Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Peoria, IL Posts: 854	I had huge guilt about all things sexual, but my ex-girlfriend was very... um... persuasive. (*shakes head* pastor's kid... not mine.) I finished deconverting while we were together, but never mentioned it to her. By that time we had bigger problems. My current girlfriend has known I am an atheist since this time last year, and while we occasionally have fights over it, it doesn't get in the way of our sex-life.

01-23-2003, 08:54 PM	#4
Philosoft Veteran Member Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Southeast of disorder Posts: 6,829	Hmm. Sex... sex... Is that something you do with another person? Refresh me, people.

01-23-2003, 10:51 PM	#5
Strawberry Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Lancaster, PA/Toronto, ON, Canada Posts: 627	My sexuality is much, much healthier. Even approaching normal now. However, the sex is the same as before, because I wasn't getting any then, and I'm still not. But I don't feel guilt or fear for having been born with a libido anymore, which is a nice change, if I do say so myself.

01-24-2003, 09:35 AM	#6
darwinspetmonkey Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Carson City, NV Posts: 35	Since I decoverted in 6th or 7th grade, and lost my virginity much later it is better since. And when I start having some sexual contact with someone besides the Sock Puppet of Love again it will be even better (I hope, I can't quite remember but I recall there was sweating involved).

01-24-2003, 10:20 AM	#8
penumbra Veteran Member Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: Portland, Oregon Posts: 1,938	from Philosoft "Hmm. Sex... sex... Is that something you do with another person? Refresh me, people." Well, I, too, have a vague recollection of that word, somewhere in the deep recesses of my mind. If you get an answer, Philosoft, clue me in.

01-24-2003, 01:03 PM	#9
Non-praying Mantis Veteran Member Join Date: Jun 2001 Location: Roanoke, VA, USA Posts: 2,646	None of the above. I deconverted before I had a sex life! NPM

01-24-2003, 01:23 PM	#10
Ab_Normal Veteran Member Join Date: Aug 2002 Posts: 2,842	My husband and I thought that getting married would help me overcome my sexual reticence. Nope. How about giving up religion? Nope, that didn't do it either. After about 10 years, we finally realized that I'm just on the far left-hand side of the sexual bell curve. To make life more interesting, he's on the far right-hand side... Still, on the days when I don't feel like taking responsibility, I blame Catholic school sex-ed, what there was of it.

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