beth

*Like the title said* (and yes I am nice sweet CiaraBeth)

I think I am. I am trying to introduce all kinds of evil stuff to my husband(He'd kill me if he read this.) . (currennly very drunk, please excuse fanmily hatews me.) So am Bi. Trying to drive my husband crazy with evil porn and evil fantascies. What else should I do to de-fundy my husband? He likes and thinks of all kinds of evil fantacies. *note: They can only occur once a month, unless during school hours. Any infidel Bi in Tampa, Brandon, Lakeland, Or Plant City?) Thanks. Will probably cringe after reading this sober. Ain'yt getting Drunk Grand? As a Christian I couldn't...........

beastmaster

It doesn't matter whether or not you are "officially" bi. If you wanna fuck a girl, by all means do it. You don't need a license.

Sorry, I'm no help with your hubby tho'. Most men would probably be delighted with your fantasy, but sounds like he might be a little threatened. Are you thinking of telling him, or hinting?

beth

I am trying to drive him wild with the fantasy.

christ-on-a-stick

Hey Beth,

Er, I think you've already figured out the "how do you know if..." part of your question, but the "what do you do about it" part is admittedly tricky, particularly adding in the fact that you are married and recently deconverting AND your husband is still a Xian. I am fortunate enough (being bi as well) to have come to the realization prior to marrying my current husband so that it was out in the open from when we first started dating, but it *was* a big issue with my first husband (superfundy) - although it wasn't the main reason we divorced it was certainly a factor.

I have to leave work right now but will log on when I get home as I have more to say.

(minor suggestion; this MAY be better in Secular Lifestyle & Support as it deals peripherally with how your husband's Xianity may affect your expression, and also to keep a bit more focus on the serious aspects of the topic as opposed to possible degeneration into innuendo and remarks. Just my .02!)

Lauri

livius drusus

I don't think we need to send this thread to SL&S quite yet, Lauri. The transfiguration of blondegoddess is a soft kiss with gently parted lips on the fevered brow of this forum and I am enchanted.

Blondegoddess, I doubt feeding the fantasy will be enough to make him accept that kind of boundary crossing in real life, but if at first you don't succeed and all that.... Playing with the fantasy is hot as it is. I say take the time to smell the roses and indulge in it. You're having kinky sex! That's so cool!

On a more serious note, introducing a third person, even just as a warm body, into a pre-existing relationship is always complex. There are so many issues that require explicit discussion. You can't bypass the brain and go straight to the gonads without huge repercussions later on. Y'all have so many other issues to sort out first. I think a little back-burnering is in order.

Now, back to the liquor and lesbian porn with you.


Oh I get it, Shea. You saw that I left the 'to' out of that last sentence and lost all respect for me. That's cool. Hit me with the edit mark. I can take it.

Viti

I think livius is very smart and agree with everything she says.

Seriously...start small with the lesbian porn and fantasies...maybe splurge on a live show on the 'net like iFriends or something. When everyone is hot and sticky ask your husband if he would like to fulfill this fantasy...he may surprise you.

christ-on-a-stick

Well dangit, in my commute time livius managed to pop in and sum up EXACTLY what I was going to elaborate on with this: (Bold mine).

From the other issues you've discussed that you're currently dealing with, this one may be best put on the "back-burner" as livius said for the moment, anyway... although BY ALL MEANS work it (the fantasy aspect) to your advantage if it's adding the *good* kind of fuel to your marital "fire" The more serious considerations can probably wait, since you have a lot on your plate right now with regard to your other coming out (to your Xian families).

livius drusus

Hey! What's that's supposed to mean?

pz

Just to give the point of view of a husband-type guy here...I have to agree that this is too messy an issue to just jump in and indulge that fantasy. If my wife had such feelings, it wouldn't bother me, and I'd want to know just because it's always good to know what turns your partner on.

However, I wouldn't want her to actually "fuck a girl". That would hurt me in the same way if she were to go off with some other guy. I'm a selfish bastard, and I don't share.

christ-on-a-stick

Lady... Ya gotta forgive my impertinence, but this made me laugh because it sounded like something I think I recall spurly saying about George W.!!! Like, VERBATIM!!! Did you do that on purpose? (Note I am *not* making fun of a fellow II-er, I do seem to recall almost those exact words so I thought Lady might be funnin' with us here... )