lpetrich

Have any of you people ever pulled off one successfully? Or know of anyone who has done so?

My parents had had a rather hostile divorce, and I'm seeing if anyone has had better experiences there.

And I think that a lot of the anti-divorce people seem to be misled by a sort of natural selection: if divorce is easy to get, then those who stay married are those who are happy with each other; unhappy marriages are quickly ended. So they are misled by circumstances; their solution of forcing people to stay married will not automatically guarantee happy marriages, because if those who would willingly divorce are kept from divorcing, then they will continue to have unhappy marriages.

Viti

Hi Ipetrich...are you wishing to discuss the morality of divorce in general? If not this may belong in another forum. Two divorce threads in an hour, is there something personal going on? If so maybe we can move this to SL&S.

dangin

I have had a splendid divorce. Seven years ago almost to the day. My ex and I are still good friends. We email, call occaisionally, and last time I was in her (my old) town we went to dinner and a Basketball game. (With our respective new spouses)

She divorced me, and I didn't let the door hit my ass on my speedy way out of it. We had been married three years. I think we are great friends, I know we were horrible, incompatible spouses. She hated my friends, pot use, and lack of responsibility. I hated the fact that she wouldn't fuck me, ever.

But she is funny, talented, smart, and good company as a friend. I don't have any of the above problems anymore, mostly because they were all symptoms of my unhappiness with the marriage. So now things are great. I even supported her with information and advise when her mother was diagnosed with breast cancer two years ago.

The key to it all was recognizing that ending the marriage was the best thing for both of us, and not being petty children who harbored ill feelings.