trillian

Hey hey...I think Sakpo was complimenting you! As in "You must be soooo incredibly hot that EVERYONE wants you!"

In other news, I was playing pool at a gay bar a few months back and the girls were kiddingly trying to make me leave because I was "unavailable" and a tease just by my presence. I felt so special!! I didn't even know it WAS a gay bar until happy hour had passed and they all came in. I had so much fun! I wanted to stay til closing but my boyfriend was getting jealous.

trillian

manderguy

{shrug} I always feel flattered. I was in a gay bar and (this is true, I swear) the hottest guy in the place was making eyes at me. I was The Man!

Heck, I even flirt with some of my gay friends. Totally safe and non-threatening to my wife. Of course, she doesn't mind me flirting with women anyway as I think more about it.

Something about a dog chasing a car...wouldn't know what to do if he caught it...

RevDahlia

Would you "tell someone" if a man you weren't interested in was hitting on you and wouldn't take no for an answer?

Gurdur

If true, then I made a mistake. If your interpretation is confirmed by Sakpo, I'll confirm I made a mistake in interpretation.

And now for a funny and true story:
A professor colleague I worked closely with for four years once turned around to me in amazement at some little comment I had made (I forget what comment it was).

He said (and this is after knowing me reasonably well in academic office life for 4 years),
"Gurdur ! I always thought you were gay !"

Me being me, I laughed my guts out.
I really don't know what it is about the vibes I emit, but quite a few people seem to get confused about me. Occasionally, this can be embarrassing (how do you say nicely, "Thanks but no thanks" ?), occasionally funny.

ieyeasu

On a slightly seperate topic--do you ever play that game with male friends--How homosexual can we act until someone feels uncomfortable?

No, but I'd be flattered, provided it was done in a way that I would find flattering if the propostioner was a female.

beth

I've been hit on by girls. Mainly, I giggle. It would depend on how the come-on was done for me to take offense and, I suppose, whether or not she was appealing.

I've been hit on by guys that left me feeling insulted and I've been hit on by some that made me feel flattered. I think it's about the same for the chickies.

brighid

The times I have been hit on by a woman I simply didn't know it at the moment ... it was later that I questioned myself and thought ... did I just get hit on ... and later to have a friend confirm - YES! Oh well ... I am clueless, but I consider it a compliment. Unless the overture was deliberately rude or something like that I can't say that I am offended if a man or a woman finds me attractive enough to say something positive my way.

Brighid

Gawdawful

Sounds like fun, but my best friends from my teen years would probably smack me upside the head if acted gay, their comfort level would be exceeded quite easily. However, partly due to geographic separation, these guys are no longer close friends; we do email some but one has become an Assembly of God Pentecostal fundie and we don't communicate at all anymore except for the glurgy emails he forwards to me all the time. Partly due to my obstinate atheism and my penchant for moving so often, I don't have any friends that I hang out with currently. However, I have a couple of motorcyclist friends that joke with me about my gay motorscooter, a Honda Pacific Coast; it doesn't really bother me, it is a different sort of motorcycle, but I like it and that's all that matters to me.

One of my friends in Utah was a man that everyone, even me at first, thought was gay because of his fastidious attention to fashion and his appearance right down to the placement of the curl on his forehead. When he first approached me about going out to eat after work, I thought he was hitting on me, I learned that he was in fact very comfortable with himself, and married, and just wanted to be friends. I learned much from him about not being concerned about other people's perceptions; he knew what people were saying and sometimes egged it on. I know plenty of guys that wouldn't be caught dead wearing certain colors, but I would and do, who cares what people think of me. I am what I am and if that appears gay to them, tough shit. I will wear what I want and act how I want, in private or in public, no difference.

Warren in Oklahoma

VonEvilstein

I've been hit on by other guys a couple of times now, and they were very different experiences. The first time, they guy was obviously a bit nervous, but took "sorry dude, that's just not my thing" very well, told me if I ever changed my mind (or my orientation) to please keep him in mind and that was it.
The other guy, however, was less upfront and just kept "accidentally" toucing me and filling his speech with innuendo. I got up and left, he followed me (bumping into my butt on the way). After I pointed out how much larger I was than him, and how I could and would deck him if he came within an arm's length of me again that night, he got the message and left.
This encounter left me with a little more understanding of the problems women can face, when hit on by assholes.

brighid

Except we usually don't have the size and intimidation advantage men do

B