Loren Pechtel

Agreed--we each thought the other was unavailable. The language barrier was considerable. The attraction developed anyway, just beneath the surface.

villainess

Ach, for pity's sake, if you don't feel different and superior when you're a teenager, what motivation do you have to actually work at becoming different and superior when you grow up? Every worthwhile thing I've ever done in my life has been done, in part, to try to chase down the child prodigy I was supposed to be...

as for this sex offender bit, well, when my partner was in high school they told him he'd become a serial killer unless he went to his prom. He didn't, and didn't. And in the long run he even got to date me, which never could have been predicted from the data available at the time.

the.villainess

Dark Cobra

I do not find sex to actually be "disgusting", and morals are completely irrelevent (in fact I think of myself as ammoral to some extent, as I prefer not to recognize that any morality is the "right" one.)

Again, the probabilities state otherwise.

phlebas

Again, you have no data to have any clue at all what the "probabilities" ARE.

Besides, it's not about probability or random chance. It's not really a lottery. There are certain basic things you can do, and you will be pretty much assured you will meet someone with which you can have an adult, romantic relationship.

However, many of those things are not an option in high school, where meeting a "soul mate" really is mostly up to chance. If your schoolmates are all weighed, measured, and found wanting, then you can increase your available population sample with some after-school things, or find a part-time job.

In any case, it's pretty obvious by now that no one here has (or will share) some way of short-circuiting your homones.

villainess

So my first post was too long to read through to the end? I will take this under consideration in future writings. I still think the book I mentioned might have hints, too.

the.villainess

phlebas

No, I read it. A book on celibacy, right? I had been under the impression that choosing celibacy meant using willpower to overcome natural urges, not actually doing away with them.

And your advice on physical fitness and other activites is a good one. But, again, I hadn't noticed that being athletic (or even reasonably fit) or having hobbies does anything to curtail the sex drive. Ask Kobe Bryant.

I got the impression from young DC here that he simply wants the feelings GONE. I was assuming he didn't mean lopping the danglies off, although that would probably work.

My apologies if I misunderstood your point.

villainess

Don't mind my crankiness.

I think we're on the same page regarding the ability of any individual to make those feelings necessarily and permanently go away, or the desirability of doing so. I just think that the sublimation thing can be really useful, not only for the lust but for the anger, in the short term. It does take some willpower, but it works fairly fast once you get started. At least, that's been my experience.

the.villainess

Dark Cobra

Oh? Meeting random strangers over the internet?

That seems artificial and pathetic to me. Pathetic because they actively seek people to love, they don't just start loving them.

It is about probability. How many people are like me in the world?

Viti

The best couples aren't "like" each other so much as they compliment each other.

villainess

Well, if you're the last living Great Auk, none. Let me know where you live so I can negotiate the sale of your corpse to a museum after you pass on from sheer existential lonliness.

the.villainess