Anson

That's strange; I thought they'd be impressed by such a comment.

Cutter

"Holy fucking shit, check out the rack on that babe."

:notworthy

Thanks for the laugh!


Thanks for sharing Cutter, it must have taken at least a little courage to post that.

Yeah, I nearly didn't. I obviously would prefer to forget that chapter of my life. But sometimes it doesn't hurt to remember just how fucked up things can get if you don't do something to prevent it.

hezekiah jones

Originally posted by fromtheright
Since it means now I'm not getting laid anyway.

Strict separationists have more fun.

lisarea

Very few of my male friends edit that sort of comment around me, actually.

Of course, I'm always trying to help, too. I'm not crude or anything, but I will point out huge bazongas if there's a chance a friend will miss them. Sort of like a public service announcement.

Actually, I have to admit that, at 17, I was still sort of rolling along and letting boys do the picking for me, so I did date a lot of cool and smoove guys at the time because they were the ones who actually asked me out. I even dated a really stupid underwear model once. But man, I had the worst, most painful crush on this math geek named Harold who weighed about 90# and had hair like a big blond Brillo pad.

I didn't figure out that whole dynamic until I was MUCH much older. But you know, if Harold had asked me, say, to go get coffee or something with him, I would have gone in a second, and I like to think I would've eventually made my intentions clear.

So just don't try too hard, make friends--male and female--and for crying out loud, if there's some girl following you around throwing bricks at your head everywhere you go, don't rule out the possibility that she's trying to get your attention.

NonHomogenized

I find it difficult to take to heart the "just treat girls like guys" idea. This may have something to do with the fact that 85+% of the guys I meet have the intellect of a kumquat, and cannot converse on any topic other than sports, sex, and drinking, of which I despise sports (in general, and pretty much all of the talked-about ones), and get bored quickly by those with whom I can converse about nothing but sex and booze.
Of course, when I talk to girls, I do try to simply talk to them, (contrary to popular belief, some guys really do want female friends) but, in my attempt to be polite and not seem like I'm trying to chat them up, I a) often get nervous, and b) have no idea what to talk about.
Come to think of it, I have problem b) a lot when talking to people I don't know well. 90% of what interests me will garner wide eyes and slow-backing away by most people (or the equivalent ), and I never know which 10% will interest them. As such, I never know what subjects to discuss with people. I think that's a large part of my problem in talking to people, especially girls.

FoE

Well you have to tailor your conversation to its audience anyway, eh? I don't talk computers to my computer illiterate friends. Still, i do have a badhabit of pointing out cute women to my fiance. I figure whats the point of spending the rest of my life with someone if i can't be myself with them, eh?

Anson

I really have no idea how to tell when a girl has a crush on me. There was a girl in high school that I liked and later on, when it was too late, I found out the feeling was mutual.
Then there's the one and only girlfriend I've had; it wasn't till she grabbed my hands and started rubbing them that I thought she might have had feelings for me. But of course my self esteem was so low at that point that I was still telling myself that it couldn't be possible.
Then there's the two girls I asked out. I thought both had feelings for me, but they both turned me down.

Anson

Man, that's bad. I'm just imagining how I'd feel if my girlfriend (if I had one) pointed out guys she thought were good looking. I think that's pretty inconsiderate.

FoE

How so? It would be dishonest of me to pretend that i didn't think other girls were attractive. If my fiance sees a guy see thinks is cute and points it out it doesn't diminish our relationship at all. Physical attractiveness is only a small part of our love. If she tells me some guy she she met is really smart is that inconsiderate? If i say that so-and-so has great charisma should she feel bad?

The two of us are in love and that trumps petty attraction. I could probably stand to be less crude though

Cutter

I'm with NonHomongenized when it comes to conversing with people - buggered if I know what the hell to talk about/say.

I'm also with Anson, I wouldn't know if a woman was interested in me - she'd probably have to bludgeon me unconscious with one of lisarea's bricks for me to get the message!