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So it isn't just a soup of chemicals - it is like a machine where the chemicals just send signals. About happiness - there are two kinds - temporary pleasure, and contentment. In the case of contentment, while there is pain or expected pain (fear) there is still a kind of optimism rather than deep despair. Quote:
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It is certainly easier in the case of say, a misunderstanding of a math problem, to explain the experience in terms of a flaw in reasoning, and then to correct it by explaining how to reason. Quote:
You may say that a particular reasoning is not even one link in the chain of causation, but just a "sterile flower on the tree", so to speak. Some reasons seem to be this way, other reasons seem to be a link in the chain of causation. Quote:
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I'm still not seeing what "legitimate" would be. I say the religion is a delusion, as you imply there. Quote:
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Jess, even though I'm sure you know that the mammalian motivational system is a "selfish" one (seeing that it's a survival mechanism), based on reward/punishment, I'm also sure that is not what you're talking about. You're wondering if a conscientious person, who is concerned with the plight of future offspring, might formulate a valid reason for bringing children into a harsh world.
My answer would be that, though there is no "valid" reason (rational reason) to do so, there is also no valid reason not to. If there is ultimately no reason for the human race to continue, there is also no reason for it not to continue. Further, your own children may experience grief (certainly they will at some point), but they will also experience joy. After all, most older adults report being glad instead of sorry they were born, so the odds are that the experience will be positive. As to children who contend they wish they "had never been born", this is a fairly common adolescent expression of angst, though there is a positive correlation between bipolar disordered adolescents and instances of making this particular contention. However, adolescents, in general, are notoriously famous for experiencing more mood swings than the rest of the population, for being more impulsive, and for being dramatic in their presentation. Adolescents and teens engage in suicidal behavior for reasons adults would often consider trivial (such as being grounded for a weekend or making a bad grade), and the vast majority who fail in their attempts later report being glad they failed. Believe me, I'm not making light of adolescent pain; it's very real; but it often "goes away." Sometimes it doesn't go away, but, usually it does to a significant extent. |
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QUOTE/WHY? Give me a reason. Give me a reason that makes it worth it to bring a child who--- subjectively--- may hate this world more than I do into this world. Or worse, who may make others already here do the same.\QUOTE
Jess, do you really want an answer? Just venting? I suppose a question to you, though rhetoric, might serve to explain my answer: Can you recall something said or done by someone else, to you, that granted you a "personally better" attitude? Remember what that felt like? I would submit that that's a reason, although usually seen more clearly in hindsight. One reason I'm stoked about having kids (I have one), is the opportunity for him to IMPROVE. Consider the sorry state people are in immediately after birth...naked, optionless. Sure, that kid might grow up and hate you, the world, him/herself - lots of em do, but it's your job to GIVE OF YOURSELF in order that you might, armed with experience, HELP SOMEONE OUT. Yeah, that's what I'm saying...giving to someone else is what it's all about (and please don't quote me as saying that's the only drive for procreation, eh). By having a child, you're not the one giving him all the crap that life dishes out, it's something called the human condition. The Princess Bride said it well, "Life IS pain, highness...anyone who says otherwise is selling something." There is a degree of pain for everyone. Your job as parent is not to increase it, dig? |
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I don't see any valid (selfish or unselfish)reason *for myself* to have children. I see many reasons not to. Some can be viewed as unselfish like "since I would be uncapable of being a good mother, I will not have children" while some can be viewed as selfish "having a child would seriously impair my career" or "the best way to avoid episiotomy or C section is not to get pregnant in the first place.
Some people decide to have children, and for whatever reason they do it, it is their choice. I may disagree with that choice if number is larger than two (overpopulation problem) but any attempt to control reproductive decisions is a slippery slope imo. However, I don't like it when my choice for not having kids is attacked as selfish. And I hear that on regular basis, that and the famous "you'll change your mind when you get older, and it might be too late and you'll be sorry, better have them early". |
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