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fatherphil · 07-06-2003, 04:03 PM

dal, i have no preference on who stays home with the kid, just pick one going in and make sure as best you can that they are up to the task. we so often neglect examining for such important qualifications when we are picking the one to share a night with.

as far as grandparents and such, i think it is better than daycare as long as they are really interested in taking the job. but then again its a pretty big thing to ask someone to do after they've put their time in raising the parent. also it could rob the child of having the more relaxed relationship they deserve to have with their grandparents.

fatherphil · 07-06-2003, 04:07 PM

qos. how much do you think parents need to earn to insure the level of care for one child insuring its "support and education"?

HelenM · 07-06-2003, 06:40 PM

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does a hireling generally hold a child's interest in the same light as a parent? do you really equate the care and bonding they offer as the same as that of a mother?

I've seen it both ways. I've seen babysitters that care for children as well as attentive mothers, and ones who don't.

Helen

fatherphil · 07-06-2003, 07:24 PM

how do you find it generally, helen?

The Other Michael · 07-06-2003, 09:17 PM

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does a hireling generally hold a child's interest in the same light as a parent? do you really equate the care and bonding they offer as the same as that of a mother?

Just as with the parent, it will depend on the particular hireling.

cheers,
Michael

Daleth · 07-07-2003, 04:50 AM

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dal, i have no preference on who stays home with the kid, just pick one going in and make sure as best you can that they are up to the task.

Interesting and surprising. It still begs the question, though, of whether the working parent is actively parenting while they are out and why it's not equally important for the child to have lots of time to bond with both parents.

fatherphil · 07-07-2003, 12:07 PM

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Interesting and surprising. It still begs the question, though, of whether the working parent is actively parenting while they are out and why it's not equally important for the child to have lots of time to bond with both parents.

i'd say the working parent has taken a less hands on role in the parenting of the child. the non-working parent's role in the bonding of the working parent would be one where there is reassurance that although not present, the working parent is still an integral part of the family unit. let there job be one of bonding with a minimal of disciplining when they get home from work. more simply, let the stay at home parent make sure that the child has cleaned his room and done their homework before the working parent gets home.

Vylo · 07-07-2003, 12:15 PM

Keep in mind it is not the quantity of time, but the quality of time you spend with your child, that has been shown to have a large influence. Even an hour a day can have a much more profound effect on a child's life then 16 hours of playtime devoid of teaching.

fatherphil · 07-07-2003, 12:31 PM

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Keep in mind it is not the quantity of time, but the quality of time you spend with your child, that has been shown to have a large influence. Even an hour a day can have a much more profound effect on a child's life then 16 hours of playtime devoid of teaching.

i don't believe you want to minimize the importance of a certain time requirement in the way of quantity.

Vylo · 07-07-2003, 12:34 PM

To a certain degree you are correct. But always try to make the most of your time with your child to be on the safe side

(teach them morals, values, etc).

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07-06-2003, 04:03 PM	#191
fatherphil Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: burbank Posts: 758	dal, i have no preference on who stays home with the kid, just pick one going in and make sure as best you can that they are up to the task. we so often neglect examining for such important qualifications when we are picking the one to share a night with. as far as grandparents and such, i think it is better than daycare as long as they are really interested in taking the job. but then again its a pretty big thing to ask someone to do after they've put their time in raising the parent. also it could rob the child of having the more relaxed relationship they deserve to have with their grandparents.

07-06-2003, 04:07 PM	#192
fatherphil Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: burbank Posts: 758	qos. how much do you think parents need to earn to insure the level of care for one child insuring its "support and education"?

07-06-2003, 07:24 PM	#194
fatherphil Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: burbank Posts: 758	how do you find it generally, helen?

07-07-2003, 12:15 PM	#198
Vylo Regular Member Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: washington, NJ 07882 Posts: 253	Keep in mind it is not the quantity of time, but the quality of time you spend with your child, that has been shown to have a large influence. Even an hour a day can have a much more profound effect on a child's life then 16 hours of playtime devoid of teaching.

07-07-2003, 12:34 PM	#200
Vylo Regular Member Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: washington, NJ 07882 Posts: 253	To a certain degree you are correct. But always try to make the most of your time with your child to be on the safe side (teach them morals, values, etc).

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