abe smith

uh, *subservience* by phenotypic females is taught, inculcated, expected and indeed often or always *required* from them In Ouah Culchuh. And any phenotypic female who refuses to Drop The Pinch Of Incense onto the altar of The Great Bullshit can almost certainly count on being PUNISHED, subtly or unsubtly, by those who assert power over her, starting with her MOTHER, who wants her dear daughter to be able successfully to compete in the cut-throat (sexual) competition.to which the Mother herself has submitted all her own life long.
The culturally-imposed habit of required female subservience is so deeply-ingrained in our system, or indeed in ALL human systems, as to be unperceived & unknowable by those who impose it and by those who eat it (as,"YOu have to eat this shit."). The rewards for compliance are considerable; and the punishments for all forms of non-compliance are unspeakable.
For the most part those rewards & punishments are so-effectively imposed that nearly-all females scarcely-perceive them; and are almost inalterably unable to reject or elude them.
The refusers & eluders have a great deal to lose! In a number of present-day cultures, eluders & refusers AND INNOCENT VICTIMS are punished with DEATH. (And I don't think the Bush Administration, for example, particularly cares to
alter that value-system.) end-of-my-sermon.

Jewel

Yep, don't I know it. It really is a different world up here. I don't know what it's like to work in restaurants up here but I don't run into incredibly religious people all that often so I can't imagine I would run into the problem you're having. Back in my restaurant days I was living in NC. Lots of religious people but they mostly didn't frequent the places I worked -- lucky me!