pariah

sexual harrassment goes more than one way. it all depends on the situation though...

Sakpo

Clearly, you must be left to assume that everyone wants your hot man love.

Stiletto One

Or something.

Personally, I'm not bothered too much by random guys hitting on me, but I generally say something along the lines of "Dude, I'm hetero�cut it out". Coupled with a sufficiently irritated facial expression, that usually puts a stop to it. I've got a couple of gay guy friends, and I don't really consider it awkward. I hate it when they ask me for fashion advice, though.

Gawdawful

Exactly.

Although it's been a very long time since I've been "hit on" by either sex, I would consider it a complement if either one did.

I used to work with a guy that wouldn't go into the men's room if a known gay man was in there. One day he came back in a huff, saying he thought there must be a gay convention in the men's room. I asked him why he couldn't go pee anyway. He said he was afraid they'd look at his private parts. I laughed heartily and said "Why, are you afraid that you might get aroused?" Boy was he mad at me. I don't really think he ever forgave me for that remark. He became my worst enemy, and come to think of it, the only enemy I've ever had. What a homophobe. What an idiot.

Warren in OK

Ad Astra

Being hit on by a member of the same sex is actually the preferable situation in my case.

Gurdur

I must ?

I couldn't give a stuff what you assume.
I merely stated the facts as they are.

meritocrat

Well some are female and they stated they would be offended if another woman attempted to chat them up.

I'm not a homophobe so it makes little difference to me.

Laci

"eww"

If the gay person immediately leaves you alone after you either tell her you're not interested or totally ignore her. Then it's okay. But if she pursues it even after your negative responses, I wouldn't like it at all! I'd tell someone.

keyser_soze

Was hit on a good bit in college by gay guys...somewhat shocking at first(first time I had been around a significant gay population), but after a while, I had gotten rid of a lot of old predjudices and beliefs due to seeing REALITY. After that, it was okay, kind of flattering even. Never been even marginally bi though, so I had to turn them down. Some were pretty attractive for guys, so I thought it was something to be flattered by, rather than scared of.

never been there

I was a bit offended by someone hitting on me just to see how I'd react, IOW he figured I'm hetero. That's mild harassment, and presuming on my good manners. It was in a gay bar, however, and on a Friday night so it's not like I would have any excuse for reacting badly.

And there was one tactless twit (otherwise a good guy, but a tactless twit nonetheless) who grabbed my ass in front of some of my students. I was just astounded that someone claiming to be bi would assume that my having gay friends was an indication of my own orientation.

But on other occasions I've simply smiled sweetly and said "sorry, I'm attached". Why return a compliment with rudeness?