Corgan Sow

There's this incident few days ago where this colleague of mine whom I know have been chasing one girl for a long time. Apparently, it was a breaking point at that day where I saw him refusing to budge when she wanted to drive out of a parking spot. It was only then when I came and persuaded to my friend, he "let go" of her. The girl later saw me in private, and told me he was stalking her for a long time.

Well, that incident gave me creeps now. There's this girl I've been trying to court as well and there was one point she was close to one guy where I've seen them twice. not exactly too intimate, but that freaked me out.

Now, I HAVEN'T got a girlfriend before even though I've lose my virginity before (you might've wondering... ) so another "botched attempt" and my girl gots a boyfriend...I'LL BE FUCKED! Help! I have gotten close to get a gf once, but I was a fundy who told myself that this "heathen" will ruin my relationship with the Lawd (I was a fundy at that time).

Any advice is appreciated. Thanks

Amie

If they dont want to be with you just shrug it off, there are way too many fish in the sea to worry about the ones who are already caught on someone elses pole.

My advice: Stop looking for a girlfriend so hard. Thats when it may happen for you. And whatever you do don't turn into a stalker. I've been stalked before, its very scary...
Best of luck to you, I hope it all works out.

-RRH-

Infinity Lover

Question, does the girl know you have feelings for her? A relevant piece of information that could make all the difference. And your feelings are nothing to be ashamed off, it's not like you can switch those on/off at your leissure.

If she's not interested move on though.

jayh

You've got to calm down. You cannot focus on one single girl and expect that is automatically going to get her close to you (that only happens in movies). And you certainly cannot let yourself get angry if this girl goes with someone else.

Generally a guy who is that focused or appears needy is a complete turnoff to women.

To have a relationship, you need to look at yourself and make sure you are interesting to someone else. You need to have a real life outside of your relationship interests, women are much more likely to be interested in men who already are complete persons.

Finally, don't try to focus on one woman, circulate and socialize with as many as possible, when the elusive spark occurs simultaneously in both parties, the things will take care of themselves.

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GunnerJ

Moving out.

-GunnerJ, SL&S Mod