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Emily · 06-30-2003, 07:06 PM

I'm a 22 year old atheist married to a 38 year old Catholic priest, i want to reveal to him that I don't beleive in god but I'm afraid he will freak out. How should I break it to him?

Buddrow_Wilson · 06-30-2003, 07:21 PM

Isn't it kinda rare for catholic priests to be married?

HelenM · 06-30-2003, 07:22 PM

I thought Catholic priests were not allowed to marry.

Were you an atheist when the two of you married? In other words, did he marry you thinking you were a theist when you weren't, or did you become an atheist subsequent to getting married? (If you don't mind me asking)

Anyway it's quite possible he will not take the news of your atheism well at all - at least at first. I hope you get some good advice here and please feel free to share how it went, if/when you do break the news to him. If he doesn't take it well you may be in need of a supportive place to talk about it.

Helen

Gawdawful · 06-30-2003, 07:37 PM

It is my understanding that a number of Episcopal priests and congregations converted to Catholicism a few years back over the national organization opening up the priesthood to gays. Those Episcopal priests that were already married were allowed to stay married. It is not completely out of the realm of possibility, see 400 years of married priests and more married priests.

Warren in Oklahoma

AspenMama · 06-30-2003, 08:58 PM

Emily,
My apologies, but this story seems highly unlikey. Assuming you can indeed marry a Catholic priest, did you fake through the whole process of getting married in the Catholic church? I was married to a Catholic. You do not simply pick a church and a priest. You've got to go to classes and attend counseling. If your husband doesn't know you are an atheist, then you must have faked an awful lot Emily. That doesn't bode well for a good marriage, among other things.

Viti · 06-30-2003, 09:09 PM

Emily, I am sorry, but if your posts are on the up and up you need intensive therapy and cannot get help here.

1. You're an atheist married to a Catholic priest (which is unusual)
2. You asked what drugs would definitly kill a fetus
3. You asked how long drugs stay in your system in regards to drug tests

So did you take drugs and find out you were pregnant and were worried, or did you take drugs in an effort to miscarry? How long have you been married? A Catholic priest 16 years your senior...how the heck did that happen?

fried beef sandwich · 06-30-2003, 11:55 PM

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Originally posted by Emily
I'm a 22 year old atheist married to a 38 year old Catholic priest

Hold on, something's up here... Emily, how can you be a 22 year old atheist and married to a priest when your profile says (and I quote, current as of 11:38pm PST), "Birthday: March 4, 1985"?

That would put you at 4 months past 18.

So Emily... what exactly is the situation? What's on your mind? We won't bite.

[edited to remove fairly confrontational paragraph, after second thought]

Gawdawful · 07-01-2003, 12:13 AM

My profile says my birthday is Dec. 31st, 1969. For some odd reason that is off by about three months and 14 years. I wouldn't rely on the profile dates.

Warren in Oklahoma

fried beef sandwich · 07-01-2003, 01:03 AM

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Originally posted by warrenly
My profile says my birthday is Dec. 31st, 1969. For some odd reason that is off by about three months and 14 years. I wouldn't rely on the profile dates.

Ah. Noted. But personally, if I were young and in the situation that LadyShea described, chances are I'd panic and probably attempt to hide my identity/obfuscate the situation in the off chance that someone would be able to identify me. I think it is a natural reaction, but it isn't helpful when genuinely concerned people are doing their best to help you out. It's not a good situation when the person you're seeking help from doesn't know what to believe.

lunachick · 07-01-2003, 01:04 AM

Emily,

When you posted a thread about drugs to kill a fetus, I (and others) became very concerned about you. I even sent you a PM, which you never replied to. You didn't reply to that thread, either. Although I am a complete stranger to you, I worried about you and thought about you. Until I read this thread.

What I suggest you do is go back to the drugs killing a fetus thread and let anyone else know, who may have been very worried about you, that you are okay, or give them something by way of an explanation.

Then I suggest you start learning a little bit about honesty.

Maybe even get some therapy - you obviously have some issues, although I'm not quite sure what those issues are. I'm certain they have little to do with being married to a Catholic Priest, though. I could be wrong, of course - but my gut instinct is that you're not telling the truth. And I'm someone that doesn't take kindly to being jerked around.

06-30-2003, 07:06 PM	#1
Emily Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Raleigh, NC Posts: 20	My husband is going to kill me! I'm a 22 year old atheist married to a 38 year old Catholic priest, i want to reveal to him that I don't beleive in god but I'm afraid he will freak out. How should I break it to him?

06-30-2003, 07:37 PM	#4
Gawdawful Veteran Member Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: In a cardboard box under the viaduct. Posts: 2,107	married priests It is my understanding that a number of Episcopal priests and congregations converted to Catholicism a few years back over the national organization opening up the priesthood to gays. Those Episcopal priests that were already married were allowed to stay married. It is not completely out of the realm of possibility, see 400 years of married priests and more married priests. Warren in Oklahoma

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06-30-2003, 07:21 PM	#2
Buddrow_Wilson Veteran Member Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Arkansas Posts: 1,589	Isn't it kinda rare for catholic priests to be married?

06-30-2003, 07:22 PM	#3
HelenM Veteran Member Join Date: Apr 2001 Location: Ill Posts: 6,577	I thought Catholic priests were not allowed to marry. Were you an atheist when the two of you married? In other words, did he marry you thinking you were a theist when you weren't, or did you become an atheist subsequent to getting married? (If you don't mind me asking) Anyway it's quite possible he will not take the news of your atheism well at all - at least at first. I hope you get some good advice here and please feel free to share how it went, if/when you do break the news to him. If he doesn't take it well you may be in need of a supportive place to talk about it. Helen

06-30-2003, 08:58 PM	#5
AspenMama Veteran Member Join Date: Jun 2001 Location: Colorado Posts: 3,311	Emily, My apologies, but this story seems highly unlikey. Assuming you can indeed marry a Catholic priest, did you fake through the whole process of getting married in the Catholic church? I was married to a Catholic. You do not simply pick a church and a priest. You've got to go to classes and attend counseling. If your husband doesn't know you are an atheist, then you must have faked an awful lot Emily. That doesn't bode well for a good marriage, among other things.

06-30-2003, 09:09 PM	#6
Viti Contributor Join Date: Apr 2001 Location: Down South Posts: 12,879	Emily, I am sorry, but if your posts are on the up and up you need intensive therapy and cannot get help here. 1. You're an atheist married to a Catholic priest (which is unusual) 2. You asked what drugs would definitly kill a fetus 3. You asked how long drugs stay in your system in regards to drug tests So did you take drugs and find out you were pregnant and were worried, or did you take drugs in an effort to miscarry? How long have you been married? A Catholic priest 16 years your senior...how the heck did that happen?

07-01-2003, 12:13 AM	#8
Gawdawful Veteran Member Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: In a cardboard box under the viaduct. Posts: 2,107	My profile says my birthday is Dec. 31st, 1969. For some odd reason that is off by about three months and 14 years. I wouldn't rely on the profile dates. Warren in Oklahoma

07-01-2003, 01:04 AM	#10
lunachick Veteran Member Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: NZ Posts: 7,895	Emily, When you posted a thread about drugs to kill a fetus, I (and others) became very concerned about you. I even sent you a PM, which you never replied to. You didn't reply to that thread, either. Although I am a complete stranger to you, I worried about you and thought about you. Until I read this thread. What I suggest you do is go back to the drugs killing a fetus thread and let anyone else know, who may have been very worried about you, that you are okay, or give them something by way of an explanation. Then I suggest you start learning a little bit about honesty. Maybe even get some therapy - you obviously have some issues, although I'm not quite sure what those issues are. I'm certain they have little to do with being married to a Catholic Priest, though. I could be wrong, of course - but my gut instinct is that you're not telling the truth. And I'm someone that doesn't take kindly to being jerked around.

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