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And, for the record, I demonstrated, with my daughter, to my friend how a toddler "mops the floor" (I was mopping the floor at the time, which is why the subject came up). My friend ended up commenting after watching the antics for a while, "Kids are just miniature crazy people, aren't they?" Quote:
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My wife was talking to my daughter this morning about her day at school yesterday.
My daughter, 4 years old, said that someone had visited school and they had curly hair. My wife further inquired who this person might be. After thinking a while, my daughter replied "Hmmmm... I don't know really but it definitely wasn't god." Gotta love those miniature crazy people, dontcha. |
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I am a parent and make a concerted effort NOT to bore people with the details of my kids' behavior. Even though I am a parent, I find it annoying as hell to be forced to listen to endless drivel from certain co-workers about thier offsprings antics. We have lots of over 30 fiends who are single or childless and I wouldn't dream of questioning thier choices - even to myself. Why should I give a flying *&@# if somebody has kids or not, or is married or not. If I enjoy thier company that is good enough for me.
I know a couple who would nausiate you with stories about their two cats and how they would go nuts every day at 11 pm - well so would I if I had to live with them! It got much much worse when they had a kid. I really really hate people who think that every time their kid farts he is a genius, or if he recognized the title from his favorite movie well that must mean that he has a grade 3 reading level at the age fo 3. Those are the ones who really pick my ass. I feel like saying "guess what, I dont find your brat half as aborable as you do, and no he isnt all that smart or talented in fact he is quite average. Now piss off" |
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I agree that it's irritating and bad manners to say "well, you wouldn't understand". But I sometimes think it.
If you are intelligent and a keen observer, you ought to be able to work out beforehand the big changes that parenthood will bring. I don't know how anyone can accurately predict all the thoughts and emotions that will occur. When I was single I was bored by most aspects of babies and thought they would be greatly improved if they could be born at the three-year-old level. I was also pretty disgusted by over-indulgent parents, who IMO let their children get away with murder. My first marriage was childless by choice and I didn't want or expect to have children. Then I fell in love with and married my second husband. This made me a stepmother (he had custody of the two children). As a teacher with considerable experience of adolescents, I thought I knew all that was necessary. How wrong I was! My poor stepchildren, who quite naturally didn't want a stepmother anyway, suffered from my inexperience. I also discovered that now I had found the right man, I wanted to have a child by him. It wasn't until my daughter was born that I really learnt about parenthood. I remember holding her on day one and saying to myself, "Oh, dear. Now I can never commit suicide." Up till then the possibility of suicide had been a sort of security blanket to get me through difficult times. As my daughter grew, I understood much better a lot of my friends who had children and I also understood my parents better. The profound change that parenthood wrought in me is unlike anything else I have ever experienced. I would add that having a second child was still surprising. By the time he was born, my stepchildren were grown up, and my daughter was almost an only child. Having to cope with two youngish children at an age when some of my friends were having grandchildren was no picnic and I found it very stressful to do so while working full time. I had a very dear unmarried friend of my age who seemed to me to reproduce all the attitudes towards children that I had had 15 years earlier. She too was a teacher and a keen disciplinarian. She always attacked my children if she felt that they were stepping out of line. In particular, her teaching experience was all of girls, and she did not seem to understand small boys at all. My son hated her! Unhappily, he still hates her, even though since he got to about 16 she stopped getting at him. She feels fondly towards him and fortunately doesn't realise his feelings towards her. I don't think I have ever said to her that she doesnt understand how to handle children because she hasn't had any, but I have silently thought it many times. I must also explain two other things. When I had a baby of my own, I realised how fascinating babies are. This is not just because it is your own baby, but because you have the opportunity to see day-to-day development. When you really think about how much babies have to learn in their first two years, it is staggering. I no longer think they should be born walking and talking at the age of three! The other thing is that while I do find a lot of parental boasting boring, I am nevertheless much more interested in other people's children than before I had my own. I find children as interesting and individual as adults. I am also deeply affected emotionally when I hear of abuse, death or disappearance of children. It's almost as though it were happening to my own. This hasn't left me even though my own children are now grown up. Finally, this is a bit of a truism, but one doesn't seem to stop hurting for children. My stepdaughter is now 42, but I still care very much what happens to her and sometimes want to stop her from doing things I know will make her unhappy. I try not to be an interfering mother to any of them now they are adult, but I am tempted. {edited to correct spelling} [ March 06, 2002: Message edited by: DMB ]</p> |
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