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beth · 01-24-2003, 01:28 PM

Vicar, your thread scares me! But thanks for the morale boost!

beth · 01-26-2003, 09:01 AM

I told my husband that I no longer want to be on the prayer chain at church. He asked why. I told him that it was too hard to pray anymore. He told me that we need to go to church more. I told him that I didn't want to do that. He had an anxiety attack and said that satan was getting a grip on his family....

seebs · 01-26-2003, 09:13 AM

Sheesh. Maybe you and brettc should both get divorced and shack up together.

Tell the guy to give you some space. It's pretty clear that claustrophobia isn't gonna help you either way.

beth · 01-26-2003, 09:36 AM

He just started these attacks. I know somehow things will get twisted and my loss of faith will be blamed. I'm tellin ya, this is so much fun.

I did tell my brother. He an agnostic. He thought I should talk to my pastor about it. I guess he's never seen me like this before....

seebs · 01-26-2003, 09:50 AM

Well, with any luck, he'll turn out to do a better job of coping than VP's wife did, but turn out to be willing to work things out.

beth · 01-26-2003, 09:57 AM

I think he will be a male version. Victor's thread is quite frightening!

Vicar Philip · 01-26-2003, 11:26 AM

I feel for you BG, but I'd do it all over again. You have to be true to yourself. DO NOT allow yourself to be oppressed in your own home! I couldn't do it.

My concern is that the roles for you are reversed from mine. Not that this is any of my business, but have you and your husband had any violent fights before? Is this something you can see in your future? I certainly hope not.

Whatever happens, BG, come here and tell us. This was the only outlet I had for the duration of this whole mess. It made a huge difference. The level-headedness and rational analysis of my problems mean SO MUCH MORE than a glassy-eyed, slack-jawed zombie shouting "Pray to GOD! Pray to GOD!" at me.

I'm not out of the woods yet, since we still have a few issues to work out (her beliefs, children, etc.), but with a pastor she trusts on my side I feel that the worst is over.

PLEASE, PLEASE don't be afraid to come here and keep us up to date, no matter how bad it gets. This board might be your sole place of refuge for a while, and that's not such a bad thing!

Vicar

P.S. Chin up, you're in my thoughts!

beth · 01-26-2003, 11:54 AM

I'm not fearful that he will harm me physically. I just know that things will get destroyed, including this computer. When that happens, I'm gone. I'm not prepared to leave. I'm hoping that I can reveal this slowly over time so the reaction will not be volitile. I do love my husband and have no desire to put him in fear for my eternal soul.

Vicar Philip · 01-26-2003, 12:07 PM

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Originally posted by blondegoddess
I do love my husband and have no desire to put him in fear for my eternal soul.

Odd that you say that, that's exactly the concern my wife had. Even though adherents to the traditional heaven vary widely on whether you'll know anyone there or not anyway! But I understand. I just hope the freedom of your thoughts isn't destroyed along with your computer.

southernhybrid · 01-26-2003, 02:51 PM

I'm very sorry to hear of your husband's reaction to your desire to leave the prayer chain. That is a bit frightening to me.

I hope the week goes better for you. Feel free to PM me anytime if you need to vent in private. I'm digesting what you've said about your husband's reaction. I'm so sorry to see this happening. Why does it have to be so tough when all you want is the freedom to think for yourself. *sigh*

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01-24-2003, 01:28 PM	#281
beth Veteran Member Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: where orange blossoms bloom... Posts: 1,802	Vicar, your thread scares me! But thanks for the morale boost!

01-26-2003, 09:01 AM	#282
beth Veteran Member Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: where orange blossoms bloom... Posts: 1,802	I told my husband that I no longer want to be on the prayer chain at church. He asked why. I told him that it was too hard to pray anymore. He told me that we need to go to church more. I told him that I didn't want to do that. He had an anxiety attack and said that satan was getting a grip on his family....

01-26-2003, 09:13 AM	#283
seebs Contributor Join Date: May 2002 Location: Saint Paul, MN Posts: 24,524	Sheesh. Maybe you and brettc should both get divorced and shack up together. Tell the guy to give you some space. It's pretty clear that claustrophobia isn't gonna help you either way.

01-26-2003, 09:36 AM	#284
beth Veteran Member Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: where orange blossoms bloom... Posts: 1,802	He just started these attacks. I know somehow things will get twisted and my loss of faith will be blamed. I'm tellin ya, this is so much fun. I did tell my brother. He an agnostic. He thought I should talk to my pastor about it. I guess he's never seen me like this before....

01-26-2003, 09:50 AM	#285
seebs Contributor Join Date: May 2002 Location: Saint Paul, MN Posts: 24,524	Well, with any luck, he'll turn out to do a better job of coping than VP's wife did, but turn out to be willing to work things out.

01-26-2003, 09:57 AM	#286
beth Veteran Member Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: where orange blossoms bloom... Posts: 1,802	I think he will be a male version. Victor's thread is quite frightening!

01-26-2003, 11:26 AM	#287
Vicar Philip Veteran Member Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Cozy little chapel of me own Posts: 1,162	I feel for you BG, but I'd do it all over again. You have to be true to yourself. DO NOT allow yourself to be oppressed in your own home! I couldn't do it. My concern is that the roles for you are reversed from mine. Not that this is any of my business, but have you and your husband had any violent fights before? Is this something you can see in your future? I certainly hope not. Whatever happens, BG, come here and tell us. This was the only outlet I had for the duration of this whole mess. It made a huge difference. The level-headedness and rational analysis of my problems mean SO MUCH MORE than a glassy-eyed, slack-jawed zombie shouting "Pray to GOD! Pray to GOD!" at me. I'm not out of the woods yet, since we still have a few issues to work out (her beliefs, children, etc.), but with a pastor she trusts on my side I feel that the worst is over. PLEASE, PLEASE don't be afraid to come here and keep us up to date, no matter how bad it gets. This board might be your sole place of refuge for a while, and that's not such a bad thing! Vicar P.S. Chin up, you're in my thoughts!

01-26-2003, 11:54 AM	#288
beth Veteran Member Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: where orange blossoms bloom... Posts: 1,802	I'm not fearful that he will harm me physically. I just know that things will get destroyed, including this computer. When that happens, I'm gone. I'm not prepared to leave. I'm hoping that I can reveal this slowly over time so the reaction will not be volitile. I do love my husband and have no desire to put him in fear for my eternal soul.

01-26-2003, 02:51 PM	#290
southernhybrid Veteran Member Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: heavenly Georgia Posts: 3,862	I'm very sorry to hear of your husband's reaction to your desire to leave the prayer chain. That is a bit frightening to me. I hope the week goes better for you. Feel free to PM me anytime if you need to vent in private. I'm digesting what you've said about your husband's reaction. I'm so sorry to see this happening. Why does it have to be so tough when all you want is the freedom to think for yourself. sigh

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