Dark Cobra

So they were not made for each other???



I "want" someone intelligent, rational... a skeptic. Alas we get into quite a minority...

Dark Cobra

....You admit there are very few people like me?

catalyst

Perhaps I have missed it, buy why do you associate sex with numerous negative connotations? It is a perfectly natural function, and, in my experience, a quite enjoyable one.

I am asking simply because I do not understand, being at the opposite end of the spectrum, so to speak, when I was your age, wrt sexual gratification.

Dark Cobra

1. Conditioning, apparently. The more beautiful a person is, as well, the more apt they are to find a mate.

Self-controlled natural selection of sorts.

pariah

Oh boo hoo.

"I can't find anyone I want to have a relationship with because I'm so much better than everyone! Everyone else is shallow and pathetic. No one is up to my standards!"

Like daggath said, get over yourself.

catalyst

What exactly is wrong with achieving sexual gratification for its own sake?

This assumes, of course, the gratification is mutual.

Dealing with our emotions and drives is not merely a matter of logic, no matter how much some of us might wish it so.

And perhaps I was not clear enough. What exactly, not just generally, causes you to feel the way you do? Rejection?

phlebas

Who said anything about the Internet? I was actually talking about how your environment and the people around you will change as you get older, and the liklihood of one of those new people finding you attractive is up to you.

Yes, and we've established already how little you know on the subject.

Speaking as someone who has been married for 5 years to someone I first met online, let me reiterate that you know nothing about it, and let me add a "get bent."

The Internet is, at best, a tool to open some communication doors. It's not much different than meeting someone in a bar or in a park or in a class. What you do once that door is open is up to you.

I think you'll find the world doesn't lack for sullen, whiny teenagers. If you want to keep romantic encounters out of your life, maintaining this attitude of yours will be almost as effective as actual castration.

As others have said and you have ignored, it's not someone identical but someone compatible, which broadens the field a whole bunch. When we got married, my wife was a Catholic with different tastes in music and books and movies. Now, five years later, she's no longer a Catholic and both of us have broader interests.

So, there you go. You won't find anyone while you're moping around, isolated in what you feel is your towering intellect. If you don't meet anyone you can love, it's your own fault, no matter how much you try to convince yourself otherwise.

villainess

If you're a large, greasy, flightless, overly trusting waterfowl more closely related to a puffin than a penguin, yes.

Otherwise, no, I've not noticed anything particularly anomalous about you yet.

the.villainess

Stiletto One

Oof. That's kinda harsh.

Anyway, another personal side note...
If I ever wound up with a girlfriend whose personality/interests/tastes were exactly like mine:
a. We would have a lot of sex
b. We would start driving each other nuts within a week
c. We would murder each other (OK, fine, maybe one of us would murder the other) within a month.

EXACT matches the way you describe them are a Bad Thing�. Exact matches in the usual sense are "people who complement you perfectly", not "people are are you".

Just a clarification.

Non-praying Mantis

No, they weren't (You aren't a creationist, are you? ). They happened to find each other. Perhaps they spent time actively looking for people like themselves, or perhaps they did get lucky.

Or do you think that the only relationships that are "not pathetic" are the lucky, random ones?

NPM