Bible Humper

Haha, I don't doubt it!

Which gender, during sex, is the one to writhe and contort, moan out "ooooooh yeaaaaah fuuuuuuck meeeeEEEeee", and just generally lose control to the sensations they feel? I've never heard of a man doing this.....

What most guys seem to not realise, is that women just seem less horny because they don't get into that state as quickly as men. A guy sees a hot woman walking around a corner and thinks "Nice fucking tits, I want to put my boner between those", whereas a woman initially feels curiosity or intrigue when she first sees an ATTRACTIVE(not necessarily great looking) man.

The way I think of it is that men have a horniness switch that can be flicked on and off quickly and easily, and women have more of a volume knob that you have to steadily turn towards the desired state.

Godless Dave

I suppose I should feel sad about that, but I don't. It's the way I am and I like myself (more or less).

I don't even particularly enjoy conversation with my friends, let alone someone I don't know.

Shadowy Man

So, where can a man go to meet you?

Godless Dave

I think you're onto something there.

Monkeybot

Well, the last guy I met was at a Barnes & Noble. That didn't work out, but not because of the meeting place

Bible Humper

Now we've really got you pegged, you're not just a pinko, you're a pinko liberal tease.

I should mention too that most women don't much care for the perception that they are being picked up. They all have fantasies about randomly running into Prince Charming when they least expected it, though, so the basic initial strategy is to fly in at least somewhat under the radar when you open (a situational or environmental opener, not a cheesy friggin line man!).

The problem with bars is that women are on full alert, so this isn't possible. Not saying that success in bars is impossible, but it is definately much harder.

The best method is to pretty much pretend you own the place, and walk around like you're the party host greeting and mingling with EVERYONE. Still though, it sucks in there so go to clubs, parties, malls, etc instead.

Bible Humper

Haha, that's well known to be a good place to troll. Also cafes, department stores, Yoga classes, dance classes, shoe stores, areas of the city where the trendy clothes are sold, parks with bike/rollerblade trails(though getting them to stop makes things awkward), amusement parks, concerts, and self-help seminars are good "non-traditional" pickup locales.

Shadowy Man

So, what might be a successful approach for a man at a Barnes & Noble, or equivalent locale?

Monkeybot

Well, I'm not really sure, obviously it would really depend on the woman in question... I certainly don't want to act as if my tastes reflect everyone else's here. In my case it was more like we just fell into a conversation. He asked me what I was reading, which is probably a good tactic, now that I think about it, since people usually like to talk about what they're interested in.

brighid

Bible Humper is right, but I would think most men in this forum over the age of 25 would have figured that out by now (and probably most younger then this.)

There are very few men (regardless of how attractive) that immediately elicit a libidonous response in me, but some have. However I think I am the exception, at least amongst the majority of females I know. We require more then just a nice ass to get us interested in sex. I guess this is in part, a fault of evolution.

Females are in control of reproducation. We select our mates. We all know that even a relatively unattractive woman could get laid multiple time a night, any day of the week, if she so chose. Men aren't so lucky.

If guys want to increase their chances of getting laid outside of an actual relationship (and hence the reason you are in a bar buying girls drinks with the explicit expectation of sex) then you are going to have seperate yourself from the rest of the scavenging hordes of males all vying for the attention of the same females.

If you aren't already, get in shape. A man that doesn't appear healthy (one who drinks alot, smokes, does drugs, or is overweight) will generally be automatically disquailified from the one-night stand/or sexual relationship race. Why should a woman chose you when she can chose from healthier specimens?

Learn to dance, period! I don't know of a woman who isn't turned on by a man who can dance, be it hip hop, swing, salsa or any other type of dance. Pick one, learn it and hang out places where you can show off your skills.

Be well groomed and exude a comfortable confidence.

Develop a sense of humor and even if you have to fucking fake it, appear or better yet BE genuninely interested in conversation with a woman.

In bars most women have sized you up in a matter of seconds, if not within the first 3 minutes. Make the most of it. You are either fuckable, or you aren't and unfortunately physical appearance and how a man carries himself matters in the sexual escapade department.

A man who is in good shape, who is confident, is well dressed, and can dance increases his chances of getting laid exponentially.

And a few ground rules that will save you from getting your feelings hurt:

Accepting a drink IS nothing more then accepting a drink. A woman has the right to change her mind about wanting to continue getting to know you further at any point in your interactions. As the aggressor you take the risk with the investment and if you aren't willing to lose you shouldn't play the game. If you are a sore loser you will exude this and you WILL severely lower your chances of bagging a babe for some hot trist.

If she says she isn't interested move on and do so graciously.

Respect her personal space whenever possible.

Don't go into a bar expecting to get laid and don't approach a woman with this expectation. Some of us can smell/see that play a mile away and in most cases it automatically disqualifies you.

Certainly, there are plenty of women who go to bars who are looking for some fun just like guys are. We just have a much larger pool to pick from and this is not to the advantage of the male members of this, or many other species.

Brighid