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Dark Cobra · 07-16-2003, 07:54 PM

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Originally posted by Stiletto One
*yawn*

Not to sound insensitive or anything (I'm 17, myself, and I had pretty much the same "I don't need a girlfriend" attitude), but someone will come along and just sort of grab you by the balls (ovaries?), so to speak. You'll just find yourself paired off one day, and you won't even know how the hell it happened. At least, that's what happened to me. I wasn't expecting to find anyone even remotely compatible before I turned 50 or something, and it turned out that that 'anyone' found me.

Hope that helps.

Meantime, sit back, relax, and try to stave off the coffee habit as long as possible.

As for the "relationships and love are part of pop culture" thing, it's pretty simple IMO. If you take your relationships seriously and actually care about your significant other(s), then that automatically takes you out of the pop culture system of having a boyfriend/girlfriend just for the sake of appearances.

1. I highly doubt that first paragraph. I haven't met people like me in the past, so what makes you think it'll happen in the future?

2. I still associate even kissing with pop culture. Seeing two peopel express affection towards each other makes me angry, annoyed, curious, and angsty.

I am not doing this to "look cool", but for my own emotional stability. You should know how these things are... most of you are probably older than me.

As for the person referring to LUE, I will not come back. Never.

Dark Cobra · 07-16-2003, 07:55 PM

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Originally posted by //riot of disorder::
DC, you really need to come back to LUE. Get CJayC to take off your KOS.

Yes, I know LUE has done straight to hell since I left.

I am KoSed because my brother is, he is the infamous account stealer XTUX. No chance I'll ever be off KoS.

If you (or anyone else on these boards) want to communicate with me, IM me via AIM, "Lord K3nn3th".

Dark Cobra · 07-16-2003, 07:58 PM

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Originally posted by DarkBronzePlant
You don't. The best you can do is involve yourself in other interests to take your mind off of your romantic affection needs. But you can't actually take away the need.

There has to be some way to be rid of it or at least make it very insignificant. If there isn't I'll just become more cynical as time goes on.

Dark Cobra · 07-16-2003, 08:54 PM

Is there anything I can read up on about adults who have never had a relationship during their lives? I'd love to read up ANYTHING about that subject.

AspenMama · 07-16-2003, 08:55 PM

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Originally posted by Dark Cobra
I still associate even kissing with pop culture. Seeing two peopel express affection towards each other makes me angry, annoyed, curious, and angsty.

Why do expressions of affection make you feel angry? I can understand the other emotions at your age--- but why anger?

AspenMama · 07-16-2003, 08:57 PM

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Originally posted by Dark Cobra
Is there anything I can read up on about adults who have never had a relationship during their lives? I'd love to read up ANYTHING about that subject.

Do you mean love and romantic relationships? Or other relationships as well-- friendship, family, co-workers...?

Dark Cobra · 07-16-2003, 09:15 PM

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Originally posted by AspenMama
Why do expressions of affection make you feel angry? I can understand the other emotions at your age--- but why anger?

I have come to associate expressions of effection with people and other ideas I hate-- they fit so snugly together.

Also, my reason for being annoyed may not be what you would suspect, either.

Dark Cobra · 07-16-2003, 09:18 PM

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Originally posted by AspenMama
Do you mean love and romantic relationships? Or other relationships as well-- friendship, family, co-workers...?

Romantic relationships.

Jutsuka · 07-16-2003, 10:11 PM

Well, there's this:

Alana's Involuntary Celibacy Project

And this one is funny in a self-deprecating kind of way:

Joelogon's Foolproof Guide to Making Any Woman Your Platonic Friend

AspenMama · 07-16-2003, 10:20 PM

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Originally posted by Dark Cobra
I have come to associate expressions of effection with people and other ideas I hate-- they fit so snugly together.

Also, my reason for being annoyed may not be what you would suspect, either.

Okay. Well I can only speak for myself-- but expressing affection is vital to any relationship that I'm involved in-- beyond hugging my kids and friends and any cute infidel man I meet-- I simply could not be with a man who did not want to touch me when we were out together. It makes me feel connected to him.

I don't have much time to engage in pop culture-- I'm a single working mom and seem to spend free moments here-- so essentially I don't know what your connections are between affection and ideas you hate. I would only be guessing. I can't imagine living my life without love and affection and that seems to be what you are striving for, so I guess I can't really help you out here from what I know so far about your struggle.

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07-16-2003, 08:54 PM	#14
Dark Cobra Banned Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Bellevue, Nebraska Posts: 107	Is there anything I can read up on about adults who have never had a relationship during their lives? I'd love to read up ANYTHING about that subject.

07-16-2003, 10:11 PM	#19
Jutsuka Regular Member Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Sweden Posts: 144	Well, there's this: Alana's Involuntary Celibacy Project And this one is funny in a self-deprecating kind of way: Joelogon's Foolproof Guide to Making Any Woman Your Platonic Friend

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