trunks2k

And that just doesn't occur with females. I'm a bisexual male and get the same flak from a lot of gay guys. They either think I'm pretending to be bi just to act cool or I'm pretend I'm attracted to girls because girls are "safe" or some bullshit like that.

tronvillain

xianseeker:
While it does not appeal to me, I do not find it unpleasant. I once would have, but I have gotten over that. Hell, it would not even be too much trouble to have sex with a guy, but the idea does not especially appeal to me.

ex-xian

Well, perhaps my attitude is some deeply ingrained homophobia. Although the thought of being cheek to cheek with beard stubble isn't a pretty thought.

Oxidizing Material

Well, I've tongued (quite) a few males in my past. Nothing overly overly sexual, and I don't think I've caught TEH GHEY right yet. No matter how much I pine over (a) certain lesbian I don't think that makes me gay. The TaTu girls are just that- an image. Aimed at horny 15 year olds and "bisexual" trendy girls who want to sound like they know what they're talking about when they repeat a few Russian words (incorrectly), but they're no bisexual. Simply making out with a gender doesn't alter your sexual preference. If this was true, I'd have my hand on a guy's ass instead of my own twig and dingleberries because apparently, attracting guys is a lot easier than women ever are.

Reprobate

Raised in Amsterdam it's hard not to be tolerant of homosexuals. I think I would get laid four times as much if I'd been bi-sexual, but [alas] I have no sexual feelings toward men.

My girlfriend, raised strictly Christian, is bi-sexual and has had two same-sex encounters - one with a girlfriend on camp, which was more sleeping together [intimate, but not sexual] - and one trio with me and another girlfriend of mine [before we became 'engaged']. While she fantasizes a lot about being involved with another woman, she'd prefer having trio-sex with another woman [and me] above having a separate relationship with another woman. Mainly because - since my sexual morals are quite a bit looser than hers- I might take her 'infidelity' as a primer to have sex with other women.

This is not the point for me. I don't feel threatened by my girlfriend having sex with another girl [since a woman might be able to give her what I can't], and I wouldn't consider it 'infidelity' if I'd know and give my consent.

Anyway, are there any heterosexuals here involved with bi-sexual partners? And do you have the same 'problems'?

Bree

I just want to take this opportunity to tell Oxidizing Material that he is completely and totally fucking cool.

wally

I had a gay friend tell me that, thanks to the internet, he can get nice hard c*ck to his door faster than getting a pizza delivered.

ebolamonger

i'm a bisexual female and i'm involved with a heterosexual guy at the moment. i'm quite happy with him, but i do still fantasize about girls. i'm curious about being involved with another girl, but i wouldn't leave my boyfriend to follow my curiosity.

girls turn me on more than guys do, my boyfriend being an exception.

this is hard to explain but here goes: i tend to fall in love with someone's personality and intelligence and so i had deeper crushes on girls because their personality and intelligence was combined with the fact that they sexually attracted me more....if that makes any sense.

but i've had crushes on guys too. when i was in middle school, first feeling the twinges of puberty, i was terrified because i was feeling some serious twinges around certain females. since i was also attracted to some guys, i convinced myself that there was nothing 'wrong' with me and just focused on the guys and tried to ignore my other thoughts. now that i feel no guilt i can indulge in these thoughts . i see them as harmless, since they're not going to drive me away from my boyfriend. they're just part of my sexuality.


-nikki-

Reprobate

Nikki, thanks for your reply.

Although I understand you find it 'hard to explain' it's not hard to understand. I'm heterosexual, but as a writer I have to be able to step into the shoes of bi-sexual or homosexual characters.
[One finished manuscript involves a female lead character whose POV dominates in 'her' chapters. As she has sex with a male in one of these chapters, I had to write a 'sex act' from the female POV. Various women have read this piece, all of them could fully identify with the female lead, so I must be doing something right.]

My girlfriend hasn't acted [much] on her bi-sexual impulses because: a) she's still a practicing Christian, b) she's deeply involved with me and has no need for another person, c) she's afraid that I would like the same 'rights' pertaining to different lovers.

Most bi-sexual women get romantically involved primarily on the basis of intellectual/personality and secondarily on gender, which seems to mesh with your explanation.

As to the lack of interesting men, I have more female friends than male since I like to converse on a variety of subjects that men either do not think about or do not like to talk about.