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Derec · 06-29-2003, 11:13 PM

I know many people have bigger problems than this one but I just wanted to share.

I asked a girl out today (something I do really rarely) and she rejected me, saying that she just started dating another guy a week ago.

The strange thing is that we were in a class together and she was looking at me really frequently, so I thought she liked me. I must have misinterpreted something but I really do not see any other reason for that (anyone can enlighten me?)

UMoC

faust · 06-29-2003, 11:35 PM

UMoC:
Hey, no fault for it not being as big as other people's problems, it still hurts all the same. I rarely ask out anyone myself, and I got rejected by a girl just last month. I still have a bit of a crush on her

As for her having looked at you in class, it's possible that she was actually interested and later changed her mind or found this other person more to her personality. I know for a fact that the girl who rejected me had at a point, a strong interest in me, then she didn't.

All I can tell you is, it sucks. These things happen. Be pleased that she probably was interested in the first place, and try not to accidentally drop the guy she's dating into a vat of acid and quicklime his body after incinerating it and spreading the ashes at sea.

Godless Dave · 06-30-2003, 05:05 AM

It takes courage to ask a girl out. Try to feel good about that. Think of it as a confidence-building exercise.

brighid · 06-30-2003, 06:16 AM

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It takes courage to ask a girl out. Try to feel good about that. Think of it as a confidence-building exercise.

I second Godless Dave's advise.

Brighid

Cheiron · 06-30-2003, 08:37 AM

That what does not kill you makes you stronger, now it'll be easier next time you want to ask a girl out, because you know exactly how much it will hurt.

callmejay · 06-30-2003, 08:43 AM

Imagine if people quit looking after sending resumes to one or two potential employers and getting "rejected."

Derec · 06-30-2003, 10:14 AM

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Originally posted by faust
UMoC:
Hey, no fault for it not being as big as other people's problems, it still hurts all the same. I rarely ask out anyone myself, and I got rejected by a girl just last month. I still have a bit of a crush on her

I know what you mean.

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As for her having looked at you in class, it's possible that she was actually interested and later changed her mind or found this other person more to her personality.

Or look-wise.

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I know for a fact that the girl who rejected me had at a point, a strong interest in me, then she didn't.

Maybe we both should have asked sooner, although in my case that was hardly possible.

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All I can tell you is, it sucks. These things happen. Be pleased that she probably was interested in the first place,

Well yeah, I guess.

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and try not to accidentally drop the guy she's dating into a vat of acid and quicklime his body after incinerating it and spreading the ashes at sea.

Hehe, don't worry, I won't.

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Originally posted by Godless Dave

It takes courage to ask a girl out. Try to feel good about that. Think of it as a confidence-building exercise.

Yeah I feel good about that in the sense that I would have felt worse had I not done anything.

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Originally posted by Cherion

That what does not kill you makes you stronger, now it'll be easier next time you want to ask a girl out, because you know exactly how much it will hurt.

Well I knew how hard it would be since it wasn;t my first time. The knowledge didn't make it easier though.

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Originally posted by callmejay

Imagine if people quit looking after sending resumes to one or two potential employers and getting "rejected."

The difference being that there is rarely an emotional component involved with job search.

Thanks people for your replies.

UMoC

MarcelLionheart · 06-30-2003, 10:24 AM

Strangely enough, nearly the exact same thing happened to me two days ago. I'm still a little burned by it, I suppose, but I like to think of it as a method of building confidence as others have said. When I called that girl the other day and asked her out, she was still pretty impressed that I had the guts to do it as were my friends. I suppose it came as a nice 'sorry, try again' to me.

I guess, though, that this really can't make you feel that much better. It still hurts when you get burned like that and, really, there's nothing you can do about it except go on. It really isn't the emotional set-back that everyone thinks it is.

All I can say is that I feel for ya, man. It hurts, but really, there's nothing to do but move on and here's hopin' ya find someone better!

--Marcel

Godless Dave · 06-30-2003, 11:21 AM

I asked a girl out about 5 weeks ago and she said yes. We went on three dates and I thought things were going well but she said the chemistry wasn't quite there for her. "If I had a sister who was single I'd give you her number," didn't come out sounding as nice as she probably meant it to. Waddyagonnado?

Vorkosigan · 07-01-2003, 09:36 AM

I'm sooooo glad to be married. If I had to face the prospect of asking someone out, I'd probably curl up into a fetal position and never emerge.

Vorkosigan

06-29-2003, 11:13 PM	#1
Derec Contributor Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: Atlanta, GA Posts: 15,686	Got rejected! I know many people have bigger problems than this one but I just wanted to share. I asked a girl out today (something I do really rarely) and she rejected me, saying that she just started dating another guy a week ago. The strange thing is that we were in a class together and she was looking at me really frequently, so I thought she liked me. I must have misinterpreted something but I really do not see any other reason for that (anyone can enlighten me?) UMoC

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06-29-2003, 11:35 PM	#2
faust Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: baton rouge, la Posts: 539	UMoC: Hey, no fault for it not being as big as other people's problems, it still hurts all the same. I rarely ask out anyone myself, and I got rejected by a girl just last month. I still have a bit of a crush on her As for her having looked at you in class, it's possible that she was actually interested and later changed her mind or found this other person more to her personality. I know for a fact that the girl who rejected me had at a point, a strong interest in me, then she didn't. All I can tell you is, it sucks. These things happen. Be pleased that she probably was interested in the first place, and try not to accidentally drop the guy she's dating into a vat of acid and quicklime his body after incinerating it and spreading the ashes at sea.

06-30-2003, 05:05 AM	#3
Godless Dave Contributor Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: With 10,000 lakes who needs a coast? Posts: 10,762	It takes courage to ask a girl out. Try to feel good about that. Think of it as a confidence-building exercise.

06-30-2003, 08:37 AM	#5
Cheiron Regular Member Join Date: May 2003 Location: Edmonton, Alberta, Canada Posts: 371	That what does not kill you makes you stronger, now it'll be easier next time you want to ask a girl out, because you know exactly how much it will hurt.

06-30-2003, 08:43 AM	#6
callmejay Regular Member Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 466	Imagine if people quit looking after sending resumes to one or two potential employers and getting "rejected."

06-30-2003, 10:24 AM	#8
MarcelLionheart Veteran Member Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: London, England Posts: 2,910	Strangely enough, nearly the exact same thing happened to me two days ago. I'm still a little burned by it, I suppose, but I like to think of it as a method of building confidence as others have said. When I called that girl the other day and asked her out, she was still pretty impressed that I had the guts to do it as were my friends. I suppose it came as a nice 'sorry, try again' to me. I guess, though, that this really can't make you feel that much better. It still hurts when you get burned like that and, really, there's nothing you can do about it except go on. It really isn't the emotional set-back that everyone thinks it is. All I can say is that I feel for ya, man. It hurts, but really, there's nothing to do but move on and here's hopin' ya find someone better! --Marcel

06-30-2003, 11:21 AM	#9
Godless Dave Contributor Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: With 10,000 lakes who needs a coast? Posts: 10,762	I asked a girl out about 5 weeks ago and she said yes. We went on three dates and I thought things were going well but she said the chemistry wasn't quite there for her. "If I had a sister who was single I'd give you her number," didn't come out sounding as nice as she probably meant it to. Waddyagonnado?

07-01-2003, 09:36 AM	#10
Vorkosigan Contributor Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Barrayar Posts: 11,866	I'm sooooo glad to be married. If I had to face the prospect of asking someone out, I'd probably curl up into a fetal position and never emerge. Vorkosigan

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