leaglebob

krztoff- - sometimes it is valuable to "assume" the opposite and see what value is there? In this case, I mean, yes you are "confronting" your brother-in-law/family regarding their faith. Thats ok or legal or justified or even requested BUT not without consequences? To your brother in law, your family and yourself? I don't know why "the truth" should be more valuable than family harmony?

My family situation is much like your own. My B-I-L is a minister in a church. Early on, he never raised any religious issues, so neither did I. We can talk and email on shared items of interest. I have resisted injecting religious debate when it was tangentially relevant (lame email jokes about religion for instance) and I think I/we/the family are better off for it. Mom is the daughter of a minister who rejects religion for a variety of reasons. I just asked her if she prays with our family before dinner. She said "Hell yes, I'll hold hands with anybody!

Now if asked directly about any question, I would answer honestly but perhaps not go overboard in detail? As in so many situations, the real issue is not what you believe, but what you do with such beliefs?

Krztoff

Not sure I get what you're saying. Could you please clarify?

If your point is that it's better to be quiet for the sake of peace, I have to disagree. This will probably cause a bit of a rift in my family, but I've talked to my parents (who are catholic), and they agree with me that Mark is being an ass. They said that if the family winds up getting torn apart, they will take my side, as will my younger sister. If he insists on trying to convert us, my parents have said they won't be invited to our family events anymore. Basically, the most I can lose is contact with my brother-in-law, my older sister, and my neices and nephews. I know that sounds heartless, but it's really hurting my fiancee. I refuse to subject her to his shit, and if that means burning bridges, than I will.