Me and Me

What is the most important asset in a man that you ladies look for?

I often find that when I am with a group of girls and ask them they say things like big penis and money. But when I ask a girl one on one they tend to say things like personality.

Doubting Didymus

Someone has hoooormooooones!

ju'iblex

to be able to sway this pesky sexuality situation, not only would he have to be the most wonderful person i have ever met <intelligent, funny, insightful, good taste etc.> but he would have to meet my very specific list of physically attractive features. <this is significantly harder, considering i would have to be able to make a compromise gender-wise>

very difficult, but honestly not impossible. i am after all only 94%`lesbian...

Monkeybot

What kinds of girls are you hanging out with?? I'd rather have a guy who was average in those two areas but superb in others -- like intelligence, curiosity, tenderness, and kindness.

Of course, things like looks and size matter... but a guy has to be pretty deficient in these areas for it to be a dealbreaker.

lunachick

Edit. I screwed up.

Strawberry

It helps if he's an atheist/agnostic, for me anyway. Also, major bonus points for being some sort of a musician, since my life seems to revolve around music lately ( :: must. go. study. for. midterms. II. addictive. aack! :: ) and it's really ferkin' hard for me to communicate with somebody who hasn't got a clue what I'm talking about when I go off on a tangent about tempered tuning or some other such esoteric, geeky crap.

But I'll be a bit more serious here, since you (want some action! and) seem to be curious about how to approach girls.

The truth of the matter is that we don't really agree on anything.

I could tell you it turns me on if a guy is tall and skinny, a bit intellectual, has a strong sex drive and a super-playful sense of humor, wants a long-term relationship, tends to look a bit like he's just rolled out of bed, preferably never changes out of his worn-out jeans and sweatshirts, doesn't have excessive amounts of facial or body hair (but lots of head hair is beautiful!), loves acoustic music, has a nice voice (bass or tenor, doesn't matter to me), and has some ambition in a direction that's more happiness-oriented than money-oriented.

But then you'd go ask the next girl and she'd tell you that she loves football players when they're dressed up in tuxedoes, she wants to marry an aerospace engineer so she can shop in downtown New York, she needs somebody who wants to have 6 kids, and she can't stand to hang around with a guy who doesn't like techno.

Women are individuals. In general, we probably tend to be a bit more long-term-relationship-oriented than most men, but even that is a huge generalization.

Stop worrying what we, as a group, want, and just ask yourself what makes you happy in a woman. Once you've figured that out, your chances of finding one you like will be significantly higher.

Amie

Is he breathing? Does he have a pulse?

good enough then!




no in all seriousness I tend to find these characteristics extremely attractive: shyness (maybe because I am so opposite, I don't know I just find introverts extremely sexy),someone who is nice to people, sense of humor, tall.

I fell in love with a homeless man one summer when I was staying at my family's beach house. seriously. My family was livid, but he was the nicest man and I didn't care what they thought...

Benjamin Franklin

Hi

I hope this does not constitute hijacking this thread (So Me and Me if you think I am doing so, please tell me and I will start a seperate thread).

One thing I noticed while I was in UK is that there are lots of Western guys with Chinese girlfriends but never the other way around i.e Western girls with Chinese boyfriends. So I wonder if the Western girls here can elighten me on why this so.


BF

The Insomniac

Edit. I screwed up.

I know what you said!

Mad Kally

#1 Face and eyes.